Putting things into perspective

[bridder01]

Hey everyone! Brian here! I know I haven't been replying to many of the posts that have made recently. I've just been reading and trying to make sense of what people are saying and how they are feeling. I can relate to a lot of what's being said. For such a long time, I hated myself, I didn't want to do anything or go anywhere. I felt like I would never be loved or be able to give love in return. I wondered why I was still living and I contemplated suicide. I still have suicidal thoughts everyday.

But, I realized that I've done some pretty neat things in my life. I've been able to travel a little bit. I've been to England and Ireland, and I would love to go back there eventually. I am able to go up into Canada whenever I want, since I live really close to the border. I came to realize that a lot of what my inner voices tell me is bunk. I'm a decent person, or so I've been told lol. I realize that I do have a lot to offer. I also know that it's ok to be single. Society tells us that if we're not in a relationship, then there's something wrong with us. That's horse crap (sorry for my language lol). Even though there are times when I feel that I'll never find Ms. Right, I'm not giving up hope. I'm not going to rush into a relationship because I don't want to end up in one where I'm miserable. In short, I've come to understand three things in life:

1) Things could always be worse than they are

2) It's ok to be me. I don't need to pretend to be something I'm not

3) Life is too short to rush through things, so I'm happy being in the slow lane lol

Cancer has also taught me that no fight is hopeless. You have to fight against the demons and doubts. We all have them. Sometimes, they tend to dominate our thinking and make us feel like nothing. But we have to fight. Sometimes, you have to fight a little more when things look bleak. Most importantly, take time to smell the roses. All too often, we rush through the day, wanting things to go fast so we don't have to wait. I'm here to tell you that it's not the destination that's important, it's the journey getting there. Here's a song to listen to when you feel at your lowest. It always picks me up. Have a Happy Sunday!

Your friend,

Brian

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[Hidden]

Brian you are such a wonderful , loving man & your post was FANTASTIC!!! Thank you & I love you!!!!

[bridder01 in reply to Hidden]

*blushing*

[Starrlight]

Very inspiring post! YOU are inspiring, Brian and whenever I see that you’ve posted I am interested in what you have to say. I really like who you are and you have words of wisdom. So funny too!!! because I’ve been thinking about your 1,2, and 3 you posted about. I’m being positive and tell myself things could be worse, also trying to find myself and be genuine and happy with myself, trying also to be patient and enjoy where I am in the moment. It’s like you read my mind. 😆 I’m trying to live a balanced life and it feels like a roller coaster with so much changing all the time. Hard to keep up! Oh and I believe you will find everything you are meant to find and you deserve all good things.

[bridder01 in reply to Starrlight]

Thanks Starr! It's not always easy to stay positive, but the alternatives could be much worse. Keep smiling!😀

[Strongheartforever]

Brian thank you for this honest, uplifting post. There’s something so special about what you bring to this forum. I’m sure I’m not alone in saying I think of you and send you prayers every day. We respect you so much and enjoy you so much. The bad voices are bunk. It’s true. Tune out that noise. It’s lies. Glad you’re learning this lesson and helping us all in the process. We all are capable of so much more, and if we leave the negative thinking in the dust, we can be free.

[bridder01 in reply to Strongheartforever]

*blushing* 😀

[Strongheartforever in reply to bridder01]

You are just too cute. Adorable! As well as being a force to be reckoned with!! You’ve got it all. Let’s have a little dance party and leave our worries behind. I’m loving all the rockin’ and swayin’ tunes you be playin’ today! Serious nostalgia coming back!

[bridder01 in reply to Strongheartforever]

Pass it along! There are some here who really need it! 😀

[FinnPanda]

This was fantastic!! Thank you for a lovely post! ❤️

[bridder01 in reply to FinnPanda]

Anytime Panda!

[gogogirl]

Brian,

Hey, thanks for the tunes , man. And thank you for just being you just the way you are! You always know what to say- so glad we're on this journey with you- you rock. Saw a sign at a school recently- "Be yourself- everyone else is taken."!