What do you do when...…….?

[bridder01]

Hello again my beauties! Brian here! I have been going through a little minute thing and I'd like to get the feedback of the community on this.

We all know that we have to be nice and respectful and so on (I hope everyone out there does that lol), yet it's like when someone does something brainless, you want to tear into that person like a cyclone through an old tree. So, my question is this:

What do you do when someone in your personal space does something brainless (or stupid, or idiotic, etc.)? How do you keep your emotions calm? Do you let it go easily? Or do you want to unload on the person just to get that anger and frustration out?

I'm looking forward to reading your comments

Your pal,

Brian

[hypercat54]

Hi Brian well my criteria would be if their stupid act affected me in some way. If it did then you have the right to feel angry and tell them so. An example of this would be when my sister gave my number to a complete stranger who had come to look at a flat for sale in the house. She also promised I would ring him. I was absolutely furious but contained my anger and just said not to do that in future, and if it happens again take his no and say you will pass it on. Blazing off at her wouldn't achieve anything and just cause a lot of upset. The aim was to stop her doing it again and this seemed the most effective way.

It also depends on whether this affected you or not. If it only affected them then there is no cause for anger. I hope this is helpful. x

[Hidden]

Omg can I relate!! The only other nurse that I manage is so mind numbingly stupid and doesn't understand simple things or remember any training after six months!! My boss said, just don't let her do anything. Wish my job was that easy. I have to do everything and then correct all her mistakes. I no longer have patience and I end up cussing at her in frustration. She argues when I tell her how to fix something to avoid the mistakes and then she does it wrong anyway because she disagrees and doesn't want to be wrong. It's been six months!! Nursing and medicine is very exact and has to be done one way between the two of us and be very consistent. There is only one way the doc wants it and it is my job to make sure it's done right. I am so exhausted and want to pull my hair out every day. She cost us $2000 just last week in broken equipment. 😩😩

[jkl5500 in reply to Hidden]

Is that other nurse the boss' wife? You'd think you would have more than enough cause to fire her, especially in a field as serious as nursing.

[Hidden in reply to jkl5500]

No she's not. I agree but I can't fire her myself and he's a wuss. As long as I take care of things he thinks it's fine. My hubs says don't. Let her mess things up. But I can't. I love my job and take pride in my work so I always make absolute sure that everything is perfect no matter what but it's so unfair. Why don't others have the same passion and work ethic?

[jkl5500 in reply to Hidden]

Instead of boiling inside (not good for your well-being), why not tell the wuss that your job is to supervise that woman, but not clean up after her. If you have to correct everything she does anyway, why does he need HER?

[Hidden in reply to jkl5500]

I have. I have even made a list of bad mistakes, money losses and 25 days late in just the last two months. I don't know what else I could do.

[jkl5500 in reply to Hidden]

Can you go over this guy's head with your documented complaints?

[Hidden in reply to jkl5500]

No. There is no one else. It me managing the staff of four and the doc. That's it.

[jkl5500 in reply to Hidden]

If the doc doesn't mind paying 2000 dollars in damages for no reason other than carelessness, I'm afraid that I have no other advice.

[Hidden in reply to jkl5500]

Thanks for trying. It's coming but not soon enough. These days you have to be careful when firing someone.

[jkl5500 in reply to Hidden]

You would know more about that than I would. It sure sounds like she's making it easy for you to do it, though.

[Hidden in reply to jkl5500]

It's not easy to do everything but I sure know I'm valued here. That's for sure.

[Hidden in reply to jkl5500]

She quit!! About a week ago. I managed to push her out and it's so much better at work but now I'm the only one. 😣

[Nom-D-Ploom in reply to Hidden]

I worked in the inner city as a physical rehab nurse. I was a travel nurse, under the authority of the worst nurse have ever encountered. She did so many dangerous things, and failed to do so many needed things, but my strongest memory of her happened at 6AM. She had checked her patient's blood sugar and it was too low. She was running around looking for orange juice. I told her to grab some peanut butter and crackers with milk or any juice. She kept saying, "Posed to be orange juice." I finally said, "It is low blood sugar, not low blood orange!"

[Hidden in reply to Nom-D-Ploom]

Ha!! Yes it is mind numbing sometimes the stupidity people come up with.

[susanjo613]

I would like to defend the person who did what you call a “brainless” act, as I am often guilty of doing such things, and never with the intent to harm or aggravate another. We all do it at some point. I say show compassion. I say be gentle. If the person did something maliciously then you can only be angry with yourself if you choose to continue on with that person. It all depends on the situation.

[jkl5500]

Hi Brian,

I need a little more info to reply completely. By brainless, do you mean he or she damaged your personal property? Or did he / she merely do something rude or inconsiderate?

[Hidden]

I just remind myself how much I am a pain in the ass to other people. Then I just let things go. Everyone has bad moments or are going through bad times and can act out.

[Lazy_dog_lover]

If it is intentional and hurtful, I statements and setting boundaries.

If unintentional and just irresponsible, then let it go. You can only control you. If you want to open a can of worms, you can talk to the about how you know it was unintentional, but it was still hurtful and you would appreciate more consideration in the future.

If emotions are still boiling, find a release and move on.

[metalminded]

What a great question Brian! I have anger management issues. Of course it does no good to yell and scream and get so out of control. I have done that and I've also just walked away then when I'm back with my crowd I talk to them about the situation and how freakin' stupid the person was. That feels good, but the first option doesn't. I always regret it. I just don't know how to control it.