Therapist recommendations around a London or Cambridge

I think we’re not allowed to name specific therapists on here, so please send me a private message if you have any suggestions.

I have struggled with mental health for most of my life. For years, I had anorexia and self harmed. Nowadays, I have recovered from the eating disorder but am struggling with bad depression and anxiety.

Basically, my life just seems to be going completely wrong. I’ve been left with so many complications from my eating disorder that life does not seem worth living: my thyroid is under active, I am infertile, I have osteoporosis. And all at the age of 20.

I am also at Cambridge university which I am finding unbelievably stressful and it has made my bad thoughts even worse. I am currently taking my exams and pretty sure that I am going to do atrociously in them (my first one was a nightmare) - I wish I could say that is because I have been so depressed this year, but I think I’d have failed anyway.

I don’t feel like I want to kill myself, but I do wish I was not alive because every second of my life is so painful. I cry all the time and I think one day I will probably end it, with the way things are going. I feel depressed about how things are and get incredibly anxious about everything.

I have seen therapists before on the NHS, but none were ever any help. So, I was hoping someone could suggest a good one to me? I want to feel ok again. I remember times when I used to be happy, but I don’t remember what it felt like.

[fauxartist]

I'm sorry your struggling, but your best bet is to google who is available in your area as the PM's are not private either. We can't suggest a therapist by name here...so I was told.

[hypercat54 in reply to fauxartist]

You can in pm faux x

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Oh, ok. Thank you for telling me. That’s a shame, because it’s really hard to tell whether a therapist is going to be any good just by looking at their description.

[fauxartist in reply to Hidden]

I agree....there have been some who offered help free of charge...but they were told not to. I find that a real shame when so many can't afford therapy, can't find a therapist because they are living in a remote area, or are agoraphobic. I think that's why this site is so appealing...it can be an outlet for a lot of people who are somewhat limited on resources available to them. There are a lot of nice people here who can share their experience and life story's, but we are not professionals.....can't give advice on medications, or therapy, or diagnose...you can't really do that on the internet anyways...I hope you find help with finding a good therapist.

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If you have a fairly decent income you can find online therapists, where you have video sessions and email/chat online. Maybe that is an option? Here is a good site: betterhelp.com/start/ A little pricey the first month but then the price goes down. I hope this helps!!

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thank you very much. I may end up doing online therapy I guess, but I thought it might be more helpful for me to talk to someone face to face. I can’t remember what company it was, but I did try to start online therapy before. However, they made me fill out a form to “match” me with a therapist and I guess I came across as too depressed because they told me to go away and seek help with a face to face therapy as I “deserve more help”.

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I have the best recommendation..yourself..funny I just came across this just now..I just finished a session with a professor, psychologist...I can't believe I betrayed God!..who is this professor kidding?..I've heard it all before..who's the professor here?..who is the therapist?..you...I.. I don't want to sound discouraging but I hope you see my view..you can do it..wish you the best and strength..