Thursday...

[Lu2356]

So I went to my counselor and I just let my mouth run. Part was bc I have been stressed, anxious, overwhelmed, alone, hormonal, and just plain tired. I think I have had like 6 sessions with her. I was hoping she would take initiative and get things rolling and see where I can get out of this with better coping skills and just better advice. It seems as though she is annoyed with venting as much as I do, but right off the bat I let her know I hadn’t really spoken to anyone about my feelings in a long time. And when I have, I get shut down or shut out by the people I have the issues with. After my vent and near the end of of our 50 min session, I asked for her input and she basically told me that I disillusioned and negative. I was taken away bc that’s not what I had hoped to hear. It’s not so much the craving for positivity, but for encouragement. Twice, I have heard her tell me that I have a broad way of thinking. My mind thinks too big and need to bring it down. I feel the complete opposite. I feel stuck in my own little world and not putting in my part into the world to help. Then again, I know the best place to make a big impact to make the world a better place is to start with my children. It’s tough. I left discouraged and was thinking of not going back again. Idk. I think I just need to get straight to the point when I am with her. I just have had so much in my mind and not many people to speak with. Coming here has helped a bit and I continue to learning more from you all as well. Thanks! 💕🤓

[gerg]

Getting it out, to another person, is a big part of therapy. I would be honest and tell my therapist my concerns about the direction of the treatment and explain that I need more information.

I have felt that some sessions were a waste of time, but then I found out that the process works. I worked mainly in group therapy and I learned to take something away from every group that I attended.

[Lu2356 in reply to gerg]

I was actually upfront from the get go. I told her what my goals were big and small and wanted to focus on the small immediate ones. I just feel so vulnerable and impatient at times. I have been able to get more feedback here than from her. I appreciate that. Thanks! 💕

[fauxartist]

I hear what your saying about maybe not giving up and after 6 sessions you may have gotten most of what's been on your mind up front...I am a bit perplexed why a therapist would get annoyed with you if she has not given you anything in the way of coping skills to help you manage the things she says you may be dealing with emotionally. If I were you, I would focus on those things you want to be able to learn to cope with, not so much the he said she said stuff if you know what I mean...and tell her you need more direct input for working on getting better, and if she truly is annoyed with you....well ....then you need a different therapist...that' not only unprofessional...but selfish on their part if they have no intention of helping you, and just let you vent. You can vent here...and get professional guidance on how to deal with your stuff from the therapist....that may be your time better well spent.

[Lu2356 in reply to fauxartist]

Yeah, I am able to get better feedback from people that can relate to me also. Some people just don’t understand the intensity that anxiety and frustration can have over a person. And yes, I have faith but at times it’s just hard and at the end of the day I am just human like everyone else. I need a vacation... 😊

[fauxartist in reply to Lu2356]

I need one too....even if it's just getting in the car and driving in the country for the day, it really re-charges my batteries....sounds like a good idea...

[Rpan]

It sounds to me that this person has stirred things up with you and that your discomfort is manageable. That is what this process is about, change doesn’t come easy. Tell her that you felt she was annoyed with you,have that discussion. Remain open minded when the answers come. Therapy is hard work but in time things will start to make come together for you. Certainly the process is painful, but rewarding. Keep up the good work, my suggestion is to continue to do what you are doing. Have the difficult conversations with your therapist, there is so much there to learn.