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I was using this site a while back, but I kinda dropped off. I think I wasn't getting any help???So I'm back...feeling Depressed, Anxious everyday, Marriage is falling apart, Money worries, housing worries.

Have been depressed most of my life. Seen many dr.'s, been on a ton of meds, which I can't remember them all.

I take meds for Anxiety and Major Depression. They seem to be working ok.

My marriage is causing me so much Anxiety. My husband just doesnt wanna be around me, he goes in his room, I go in my Art room, to deal with my sadness, hopelessness, and sit a wonder how a husband can just act like they don't love me. Always an excuse, can't sit in my room cause the chairs too uncomfortable. He never says sorry, I love you, never looks at me, never says morning, good night, ask me how I am.

I just had a scare, cause I got some test results today and he didn't say 1 word..... thanks......

So stuck...can't just move, have nowhere to move too. ☹️

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Bluecatbooklover

I’m sorry you’re going through so much. I know it sucks being stuck in a home where you don’t feel appreciated. Everything deserves to feel loved and valued especially by the person who promised to love them no matter what.

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Claygal in reply toBluecatbooklover

Yes, I feel so unloved. I only have 1 best friend. She only lives a couple miles away. But, she has her life, she works alot. I don't really think she understands TRUE depression. I've been suffering with depression most of my adult life. I just can't really talk to her, cause she always thinks I need to look at things with a positive outlook. I usually do, when I'm not super super depressed, but you all know it's soo hard to fake happiness.

That's why I came here again... nobody to talk to about how I feel. Thanks for responding.

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Bluecatbooklover in reply toClaygal

I understand. People who have never dealt with depression or anxiety don’t really understand what it feels like. They think it’s something you can shut off. And if we could we definitely would not be sitting around suffering. Feel free to chat with me anytime. I’m mostly on here at night because I have a lot of panic attacks when I try to sleep so I get on here to talk so I can calm myself down.

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Claygal in reply toBluecatbooklover

Hi, sorry I didn't respond after your last post. I too am a night bird....I feel like I have to stay up? I usually stay up til 1 a.m. I wait to take my Lyrica late so I don't get tired too fast cause I'll have to go too sleep?????? Gosh, maybe I have bi-polar??? Are in the U.S.? I'm Eastern Standard Time.

Talk soon....didn't get too sleep til 3:30 cause my sciatica decided to kill my left hip and down my leg. Used my massage gun, now my hip is feeling super sore and now I have a sore hip....yay...limp all day now....lol.

Never ending.

P.S. I have major neck and back issues... I have fibro too. So I've been dealing with alot of stuff lately.

Shoulder replacement in September.😜

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Lettuce_17

Welcome back, I guess we have to change that then. It's nice here you get to feel less alone by being with people like you and helping each other out.

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Claygal in reply toLettuce_17

Thanks for the Welcome.Yes, I want to be able to communicate with others about my depression. Everybody needs someone too talk to.

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Pandora777

I am sorry you are struggling at the moment and getting no support from your husband. My own husband can be a bit unsympathetic when it comes to my health as well. My mother died in her forties of breast cancer and I have always had a bit of health anxiety because of this. Touch wood I have been ok and started having mammograms when I was 28 every 3 years. This reassured me and I even took out critical illness cover because I didn’t want to leave my husband struggling financially if I became ill and he would have to look after our 2 young children. Anyway enough of me but I have been through some depressing times and after watching my mother die my best friend became terminally ill with a brain tumour at 46. Sadly she died leaving 2 teenage children. This triggered Graves’ disease in me and I have been trying to cope with this alone for 15 years. My husband and family don’t understand I am ill because I don’t look it. Even when I collapsed with a thyroid storm he thought I was exaggerating my symptoms. Anyway I am just telling you my story so you know I understand what it is like. Do you have any other family who you can talk to about this? I have an Aunt who is my mothers youngest sister so only 10 years older than me and she has helped me a lot because she is in a similar position to me being a close relative of someone who has died from BC. She understands how I feel and we have supported each other over the years.

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Claygal in reply toPandora777

Wow. Everyone has a story.... it's sad to see people decline in front of your eyes. My mom had lung cancer, and I watched her die with hospice in my home....sad.

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Dolphin14

Claygal

Welcome back.

I hope you find the support you feel you need. There are so many helpful and kind people here

🐬

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Claygal in reply toDolphin14

Thank You!

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Claygal in reply toDolphin14

Me too! I need the communication.

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