Feeling lonely all the time

[Sofiathefirst]

Hi, this is my first time doing anything like this and reaching out for help. As of recently I have been having this sense of loneliness come out more. I've always felt alone growing up even though I had friends and people around me. Now that I'm older, 28, it's been hitting me a lot harder. I see all these people from my high school getting married, having kids, doing fun activities and here I am working, in a long distance relationship feeling alone all the time. It makes me feel a bit crazy for having all these feelings. It feels almost wrong but I just can't help it. I just want to be happy. Am I right?! Lol

[mrmonk]

Hello Sofiathefirst,

I don't make a habit of suggesting self-help books (I'm pretty skeptical of them, in general), but I've just started reading a book my therapist recommended to me called The Happiness Trap by Dr. Russ Harris. It's sort of a primer for Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). I'm not too far in, so I can't outright recommend the book, but your post made me think of the Introduction, which is subheaded, "I Just Want To Be Happy!" and explores common misconceptions about happiness.

Anyway, welcome to this HealthUnlocked community, and know that you are not alone in your loneliness.

[Sofiathefirst in reply to mrmonk]

Thank you for the book recommendation I will look into it, I do enjoy reading. I've thought about going to see a therapist but I haven't because I'm afraid of the cost :/

[fauxartist]

I'm sorry your feeling alone, and it's terrible to feel that sadness all the time. I have depression and CPTSD, with a few other isms that contribute to a feeling of sadness all the time. I do take meds now to help with that, they are not for everyone, but mine do help me. I also had a lot of therapy to help me understand why I felt that way. I now have mostly okay to good days. And on some days...that are a trigger for me,....I weather through it. Yesterday, an amazing group of people here once again got me through a bad day. You can share here and talk about what your going through...the people here are very kind, and it's safe to share.

[Sofiathefirst in reply to fauxartist]

Since you feel like people here have helped that is kind of what I'm looking for. Also just a safe place to open up. It's weird how easy it is to open up to strangers but at the same time its nice. I'm glad that things have been good for you! Bad days we all have them we just have to pull through them. Those are the hard day's that make like feel hard 😩

[fauxartist in reply to Sofiathefirst]

It is a good place to open up for sure, your anonymous, and if you have social anxiety, it makes it easier to talk to the faceless mass...but there is a lot of heart in this group, a lot of caring, people just like you and me...we all just want to feel better.

[CazO46]

I'm wondering if you feel able to make some small changes to you life to shake it up a bit and see what happens. It's easy for us all to get stuck in routines that can feel safe but drag us down . Take care X

[Sofiathefirst in reply to CazO46]

I do want to make small changes I just wouldn't know where to start. And I'm also so scared of change 😶