Am i normal??

[Bianca95]

I feel like everybody is against me, like i never do anything right. I panic, i get overwhelmed very easy, get annoye easily and all of this has made me feel insecure and I always think that my boyfriend doesn’t love me. I think that he had a mistake of choosing me, he is just with me while he is still searching for someones else but he tells me everyday that he loves me and i am important to him but part of me is afraid.

Everytime i want to achieve something it seems i am doing nothing right. I aim high but i have this tendency of I doubting myself.

[Starrlight]

Nothing is wrong with you... Nothing is wrong with me...except that we doubt ourselves and feel low because our self esteem could be better.

We can watch how we speak to ourselves and give positive affirmations. We can work on giving ourselves more credit for who we are and what we accomplish.

I often feel like you do, not good enough, that people are against me and I get irritable because of anxiety.

I hope we can learn to be more compassionate toward ourselves.

Wishing you a beautiful day. You are important. Maybe make today one where you really take care of yourself and love yourself because you deserve it.

[Bianca95 in reply to Starrlight]

Thank you. I will try and apply motivation on a daily basis maybe it will make a great impact in my life.

[Jsc007]

Nothing is wrong with you.

You are completely natural.

Everyone would act and feel the same way as you if they were in your position.

I feel similarly to you sometimes. That doesn't make me good or bad - it just happens. And also, I don't know whether or not it is normal, but it is definitely natural (albeit unhelpful) for us to think this way.

[Bianca95 in reply to Jsc007]

Thank you. I guess i should do something that will side track me from my negativity but i get bored easily if i do the same thing over and over again. Any suggestions how you deal with it at times??

[Starrlight in reply to Bianca95]

What do you enjoy doing? Or always wanted to do?

[Bianca95 in reply to Starrlight]

Cooking, drawing, shopping and reading.

[Starrlight in reply to Bianca95]

Me too, except for cooking lol you are lucky! I get bored to so am constantly trying to switch things up a bit and some of my day is self care/ things i love to do.

[Bianca95 in reply to Starrlight]

I try to do new things frequently everyday because doing the same the each day frustrates me and i end up being mean and angry for no reason. Now i just sleep because it seems to calm me but that's not what i really want to do. Lol, i tried exercising but its just not for me.

[Starrlight in reply to Bianca95]

I get frustrated too, get angry at some of the same ol jobs i need to do. My ocd makes it harder, everything seems dirty and wrong so i dont really notice my accomplishments. I think i will try to get back into sketching. Do you go out much for your new activities?

[Jsc007 in reply to Bianca95]

It sounds like youre trying new things which is great. What I find helpful is to talk to people close to me about my strengths if I am feeling a bit down. Otherwise, I try to stay in the moment and I find that meditation helps with this. I really recommend the guided meditation on Youtube. Type in "the relaxation response Dr Herbert Benson" and it should come up. It has long term benefits if done consistently.

By no means have I mastered this, but its what I try to do and I find it helpful.

[pink83737]

Nothing is wrong with you, it’s just anxiety trying to play tricks on you into thinking there is something wrong! this is totally normal YOU ARE NORMAL