I followed the advised from my other post. I tried to identify my fears. And the only one that came to my mind was my family. They are my weakness and source of motivation. My dad left, my mom had severe depression and I had two younger brothers at that time. I felt that I was the pillar for my family. I'm now much older and want to do what I want, and do the right for me but my family's issues are my issues. Every little thing either they tell me or they expect me to do. I love them dearly, but every time my mom calls me my heart starts thumping and I feel my chest tightening. I always drop what I'm doing and try to ease the situation.
I try to explain to them what I want, and thinking. But they either tell me I have change or that someone is influence me. They then get mad at me from trying to be myself.