Family don't understand|New here :P|

Hi, I haven't been diagnosed, but I do feel like I'm depressed, buy my family don't understand that, or mental illnesses at all. To them as long as your physically able, there's nothing wrong with you, and it sucks. My parents are nurses too. The only support I get are from my friends or online, but even still I really wish my family could understand and be more supportive. They blame everything on me, and I do feel like It's my fault a lot, even though people tell me its not.

Its even more confusing, because friends and teachers will tell me to get help and other helpful advice, but my family will tell me not to listen to them. I don't want to turn my back on my family, but right now their no help. I'm torn and i'm wondering if anyone else feels the same/similar?

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I totally understand. I use to be frustrated when my own mother couldn't understand what i was going thru and i tried my best to explain it... i had an anxiety attack one day and things started to change she gets me now and is my number one supporter. You should try writing them a letter or tell them you want to have a serious conversation and they need to listen to you

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Try showing them how serious thisis

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Hi as long as you are 16 you can get help without your parents knowing. They don't have to know so why do you have to tell them if they won't understand? It isn't turning your backon them it's just accepting they don't get it. How old are you please? x

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I am 16

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Ok thanks. If you are at school you must have access to a school counsellor. Make an appointment with them and ask them if it is confidential and tell them about your parents not understanding. I very much doubt this will be the first time they have heard this!

You could also make a doctors appointment on your own and go and see one. As long as you are not suicidal or anything then there is no reason why they need to tell your parents, but check with them when you go. Good luck. x

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I'm hopefully going to the doctors with my friend fairly soon.

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i definitely agree and depending on your state it is usually confidential to speak to school counselor/psychologist/social worker. if you are comfortable it is great to speak to someone about your feelings and what you are going through. you are not alone and you have a whole online community here to support you. good luck

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Thank you! And I have been planning to speak to the school counselor as soon as the new term begins.

[quieturban]

Maybe your family never experienced mental illness or have no knowledge of it. Don't listen to them. If you feel you need help you should get. I'm surprised as nurses they are advising you otherwise. Mental is a big issue these days and no one is in perfect mental health. Yes some of us may have better mental health than each other but it doesn't mean we are above each other. I'm really sorry your family is not supportive of you mental health issues. But we here at the forum are here to listen and help. ☕️