I've just joined you today through search of help.Thank you for reading my post.
My Partner has been living with anxiety since over 10 years. When I first lived with him 2 years ago, and after a big fight which left me stun, in pain and understanding nothing, he confessed his problem with anxiety disorder. I felt so sorry for him and all I wanted was to help him cure. Believing that the love we had for each other would be strong enough to fight the world.
It's been 2 years now that we continue living Together with countless fights which ended by me giving in. Most of our fights was about his cat, his smoking, and his unhealthy and abnormal eating habit, his unusual sleeping time that HE WANTED me to help to change for a better health. But when I innitiate an action about it he got angry and yelled right to my face. Today we ended up with our living scene narrowed to very simple patterns: him sleeping till midday or event till 2pm, and go to bed sometimes from 2 to 5am, and he naps every now and then around late afternoon and evenings. And around 10pm he would lovingly put me to bed side by side with his cat. I would get up at 7am to start my day....
I realised now that, after 2 years of trying to be there and help, not only he is not getting better but me too start feeling isolated.
My question here is that have I given the help in the right way? Or is there a better way to help him? Sometimes I feel so exhausted and scared of what I might become now which makes me wanted to leave him. But knowing how we still love each other and how much it would affect his anxiety I just can't
If you are living in the same situation or having a better understanding about his action, or any idea about what I can do, please share with me, I would appreciate very much.