Life and Death.

[surrendertowin]

As I write this,my Mother in law is in hospital fighting for her life. She has been a heavy smoker and defended her cigs always. We tried to get her vaping but she struggled to maintain it. She started with a cough and it turned into a chest infection,we got the Doctor out who sent her to hospital and was diagnosed as pneumonia. After just one day,she is on a breathing machine, steroids antibiotics and morphine. She is to stay on the machine for 48 hours and then the doctors will let "Nature take its course".

This is not the price I would be prepared to pay for the imagined pleasure of a fag. Yet many times I told myself that it wouldn't happen to me. But it could and would. I remember that Kate and I used to smoke together, justifying it ,saying we enjoyed it to much to stop and that we hardly smoked enough for it to damage us to much. How wrong we both were and now She is paying the ultimate price. It's a sad time for the family and yet she may pull through.

It's these times that I am grateful that I'm still off the deadly fags.I just wish Kate could have gotten off them too.

It's going to feel a long time until Monday tea and I hope the machine gets her breathing again. If not I hope she doesn't suffer.

Thank you. Ray.

[monky Administrator 35 Months Winner]

Ray, there are tears in my eyes pal, and I'm being honest about that, no joking whatsoever pal.

I know what you mean Ray, it will never happen to me eh BUT it does happen, every flippin day, it happens

Ray, I am behind you all the way pal I just hope that Kate pulls out of it eh and the docs can sort her out eh

Ray, please please try to stay strong on your quit eh, cos I know for a fact that Kate would want you to

I'm sending you loads and loads of loving huggs and everything I have got in my body to help you, your family and Kate to get through this very very hard time, just hope it helps you Ray

Pete xxxxx. and them kisses are for Kate see, although saying that, they might be one or two for you too pal

[Fresher 8 MONTH WINNER]

Ah Ray that is so sad, I think we can all associate with all you said, we've all had the conversation of how dare they keep saying we shouldn't smoke as we enjoy it and auntie whoever smoked and she lived until she was 125 so we'll be ok.. Feel for you now and hope and prayers go out for Kate and all the family. Xx

[monky Administrator 35 Months Winner in reply to Fresher]

Ace Fresher, just Ace gal xx

[Fresher 8 MONTH WINNER in reply to monky]

Thanks Monky, this is the thing with this site isn't it we all totally understand as we're all in the same boat and have said exactly the same things sooo many times and thank god are now trying to do our best to do something about it xx

[monky Administrator 35 Months Winner in reply to Fresher]

[yellowsnowdrop]

Ray,my love,thoughts and prayers are with you and the family.There but for the grace of God ... None of us ever think it could happen to us and too often we justify the risk by saying things like 'I could be hit by a bus tomorrow' or ' my nan smoked 40 a day and lived till she was 100' We all find excuses NOT to stop.Some of us do find the strength and determination in the end to quit but sadly many just can't or don't want to.I truly hope your mum in law gets thru this.Be strong my friend.Hugs H x

[monky Administrator 35 Months Winner in reply to yellowsnowdrop]

[droopyJ]

Hi Ray, This is very sad news but there is so much more the docs can do these days. Thoughts and prayers are with Kate and you and the family.

Keep strong, were all here to support you hun -x-

[monky Administrator 35 Months Winner in reply to droopyJ]

[surrendertowin]

Thank you all for your kind comments. xxx

[Kaprin]

What a terribly sad time for everyone, I sincerely hope Kate pulls through this Ray, we all understand every word you have just expressed we have all said the same at one time or another, and we all have our own very personal reasons for quitting and getting the strength to do that because we all know it is not an easy thing to do. Mine was a heart attack, if that hadn't happened I think I would still be smoking today, my thoughts are with you all and I will say a little prayer too, we are all here for you Ray x