Self sabbotage

[TMW4]

I continually sabotage myself. I have so much that I need to get done - both at work and in family life - and I keep avoiding everything, watching tv and eating.....doing all the things that I know make me feel worse and make the other problems bigger because more and more stuff gets added to the to do list. I just feel overwhelmed and at the same time completely pathetic because why don't I just do it!? Why don't I do the things everyday that make me feel better? It just would be so much easier if it all stopped. Sometimes I just don't want to wake up.

[graykat63]

Please try to get a copy of the book "Feeling Good" (The new mood therapy) By David D. Burns, M.D. I have the digital book, but I would recommend getting the paperback version as there are some things in the book that might require you to do the exercises better on paper. It is available on Amazon. Best of luck.

[SoporRose]

You're not self-sabotaging. It's part of whatever mental illness you have. But even though I know that's true for me as well, I still have all the same feelings of guilt and worthlessness that you describe. I wish I had a solution to share with you. I can tell you that you are not alone.

Ruth

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sorry to hear. I can let things overwhelm me too. I read that procrastination is lack of self care. Read this article in case it's relevant, it never occurred to me this was the case.drjonicewebb.com/how-procra...

[Lazy_dog_lover]

I have found that when I am in this type of position that two things are going on. First, I am truly overwhelmed by volume. Second, I am fighting a bout of shame and feeling unworthy.

When that happens, I hit a speed bump. I know I am perfectly capable. Something, somewhere made me start to doubt myself. If I could not get it perfect, I would not do it. I also fear change. If it would change my routine, my peeps, my job, my location, whatever, it would throw me off.

So, put aside the actual tasks for a moment. What is really eating at you right now? What is preoccupying your mind? What do you fear?