Second post in here today but I haven’t been doing counselling since the corona virus has started and I need to talk to someone....
I’m really worried about my mum she’s anaemic (low iron) and she’s got something wrong with her sinuses
At her old doctor that she saw last year when we were living back in the country they said that she had to get iron infusions every 6 months since she was that low on iron she needed to get it quite regularly. She got one done that day and the doctors ended up leaving the room for a bit and she ended up fainting and falling off the bed and hit her head slightly. Since that’s happened she doesn’t want to get an iron infusion done ever again. It’s making me quite worried since she was fine at first but it’s been almost a year since she’s got her last one done again and her symptoms are starting to come back. Like when we go out for the day she comes back feeling like she’s tired and has the flu and she gets quite dizzy regularly. I’ve told her to get one done multiple times but she refuses she said she’ll just take iron supplements for the rest of her life. Those won’t work that’s why she had to get an iron infusion in the first place because her body has trouble absorbing iron. We’ve had multiple arguments about it and she makes me feel like a horrible person about it even though I’m just scared and worried that it’ll get worse and something will happen to her if she doesn’t get iron infusions. It doesn’t help as well that she forgets to take her iron supplements most days.
Also for the past 6 weeks or so she’s had really bad sinus problems. Her nose has been completely blocked up there’s green stuff coming out of her nose her right eye is all red and inflamed and I told her to go to the doctor about that as well but again she’s refused. She’s just looking up symptoms online of what it “could” be and looking up home remedies instead of letting the doctors take care of it.
Another thing that I’m worried about as well is that she constantly forgets to take her antidepressants. Like she could go days forgetting that she’s taken them and I don’t realise until she says “oh I haven’t taken my medication for the past 3 days” I’m worried that’s going to cause some problems since you aren’t meant to go completely off them without your doctors permission. Plus when she forgets to take them she becomes a really nasty person to both me and other people. Like last week she was in the supermarket and she dropped a tub of yogurt by accident in the isle and she refused to go tell someone so they could clean it up. She said that because it went under the shelf no one would step on it so she would just let someone find it themselves and clean it up which I think is really nasty behaviour. When I mentioned that too her she snapped at me and said that what her brother does is a lot worse (he steals shoes from the shop Big W each time he needs a new pair) so what she did isn’t that bad. And I mean it’s not the worst thing she could’ve done but it’s still not very nice.
Anyways I’m getting off track here what do you think I should do about trying to get her to go to the doctors. She’s really the only family I’ve got. I haven’t seen my dad since I was born, my grandparents are toxic people, my aunts and uncles done give a shit about me so I feel like I’ve got no one else to look after me if something happens to my mum. My mum is my only friend in this world atm it would kill me if anything happened to her. If something happens to her I’d honestly want to kill myself. We’ve talked about this and it sounds like she doesn’t care if she dies she just says if anything happens to her I can stay with her friend Sita. Sita is a lovely person but she’s had a stroke a few years back and she never fully recovered so I wouldn’t want my mum to put that much responsibility on her. Plus I don’t want to live with anyone else I want my mum. I want my mum to live a long and healthy life. But I feel like she doesn’t care if she does
It’s making me feel so depressed just thinking about it I don’t know if she has a fear of going to the doctors and if she does I don’t know how to make her get over that fear
It’s just annoys me as well the fact that I’m going to the doctor about absolutely everything. I’ve been told I have to get a tonsillectomy, I’ve been told I’m anaemic as well so if I have to get iron infusions I will. I’ve gone to the doctor multiple times about other problems. But my mum won’t go about anything. I feel like if she doesn’t want to do it for herself I wish she’d just do it for me.