I'm new here, looking for advice on a situation that's not improving. My parents are in their 60's, retired. I live and work few hours away so don't see them often.
A while ago my Mum fell into serious anxiety and depression. She stopped going out for any reason, then stopped eating properly, and was hospitalised for a time. She's been back at home for nearly a couple of years now, living with my Dad (in the UK), and with anti-depressants the initial crisis has passed.
The difficulty is that she remains extremely anxious about a wide range of things, including people seeing her, and this means she doesn't leave the house. She's probably only been out a couple of times over the last two years for absolute necessities. Previous hobbies like gardening and reading have stopped, and doesn't keep in touch with any friends or family. My Dad has to do all the shopping and the majority of the cooking and housework, and I know this along with her constant worrying and anxious behaviour gets him down.
From reading around, this seems like quite severe general anxiety disorder and maybe social anxiety, with depression. However my Mum will not take any steps to get help. She avoids taking any action, and won't engage with ideas like counselling or therapy. She has monthly contact with a mental health team but won't take anything offered.
I'm scared what's going to happen in the future - while they're sort of OK now, my parents are getting older. Dad has basically become Mum's carer. I'm their only child and don't live nearby.
Is there any ways to encourage someone to help themselves or reach out for help? I understand CBT is probably the gold standard, but any suggestions/encouragement/nagging/frank conversations haven't made any difference so far.