Hi all,
How do you go about managing your triggers? My PTSD triggers have a lot to do with emotional neglect and abuse. I still feel like no matter what I do, I can’t find and establish an adequate support system to even give me a chance at sustained recovery. I can’t get my emotional needs met and I can’t continue tolerate the isolation.
I had to force myself out when I first started my recovery journey. I looked for groups that held an interest for me. I made some friends in these groups but I did not tell them of my history with trauma because I didn’t want them to see me as needy. I don’t know that these friendships helped me get my emotional needs met at all. I learned slowly to like myself and doing in my home which I wanted to do. I worked out I could come and go as I wanted to, I could eat what and when and where I wanted to, I could get up and go to bed when I wanted to. It is very lonely living alone and there were times when I would go to the library just to be around other people.
You’re not alone in this & it makes you sick. I have health issues and can’t do much I let people down they try. I’ve cried for two years trying. I’ve lost so much and abused mentally by people for things. I realized I just have to walk away and let go of those people. If I dwell on things I don’t heal.
It’s our job to accept where we are and to love ourselves and others. That can mean a smile at a coffee shop sharing banter with clerks going to the library asking about books. Helping others in small ways we can accepting others don’t help you. Accepting kindness from strangers letting that make your day. Going places where people are be it the pool a coffee shop a diner library get an interest reading about how to deal with hurt. There’s a book the Journey from Abandonment to Healing it has good ideas. When you cry hold something tell yourself you’ll be ok imagine the people that do love you and say I love you too during a tough spell.
It’s a journey and we have to save ourselves. We are not children. It’s rough but picking up we have to accept and we have to choose ourselves try not to look back yet surrender to it. It’s small steps of letting others in and caring about others. Find a new flock and these moments will change if we choose to try. We just have to try.
Reach out and share here we all have similar issues that is why we come here let it all out it is healing the mind and steps to healing and recovery
Naming Emotions/Triggers
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