Emotional traumas comming up

Hey friends

It's monday 01/12/15 . I am a little frightened . I had a counseling appointment with a woman who is a Masters level certification with the energy phychology emotional freedom techniques. I went in to see her this past Thursday. We focused on my feeling overly responsible over my two adult children. My son is really in some hard times in North Carolina while i am in florida. But the therapist asked me to start tapping on my associations and emotional attachments around my son. I started crying. It was my unresolved emtional pain from the past where I had been wounded. The tapping exercise brought up some " post trauamatic injuries" and when that emotional pain came up in arose up on the left side of my neck and face. Of course there was a sharp pain that brought up a pain when I use to get headaches and nosebleeds when I was real young living with my rageaholic mother and she was a female batterer. I started crying. It hurt so much I shut it down emtionally. But then for the past 4 to 5 days that pain in caused my face and neck to get swollen.. Only today after calling a prayer hotline with unity 24 hr prayer hotline did I feel I am finding some release. This is the first time doing trauma work and eft that anything like this has happened. I would love to hear others experince, strength and hope in how they may have handle similar situations. Thanks for your understnding and acceptance.

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  • At first with counselling it can be difficult as all the emotions we keep locked up inside of us come rushing to the surface. But stick with it as it can be such a cathartic process just to release all of the pent up emotions and to start to deal with stuff we have locked away for years. When i first did counselling i was a typical man and thought it would be of no good and put it off for years but when i finally went it made such a difference to me and helped me so much. I just hope you can get the same from it and feel better i wish you all the best. Poohbear'

  • Ok friend thanks for your validation and approval. It helps me to feel I am not alone.

  • Hi WildernessScout,

    Poohbear has it right - the stuffed emotions come up and out when we're doing the healing work, and that sure sounds like what's happening with you. Someone called it a roller coaster, and that's how I've experienced it. One day I'd be fine, and think I was through, and the next day it would come up again.

    I had a 12 step sponsor in ACA who was also a therapist, who said "Dan, it's going to feel shitty for a while," which validated what I was going through, and affirmed it wasn't much fun. He also said the feelings from our traumas were stuck in our bodies at the cellular level, which explained the many years of aches and pains I had experienced. Those diminished over time, and I've begun feeling hugely better, and younger than I had in years.

    Stick with it - the more I did it, it built the trust that I wouldn't just be in pain forever, and I felt the lightness of not carrying those old wounds.

  • Thanks Dan

  • You're very welcome!

  • I am so glad you had some great coping skills to help you out.

  • Hey sheilasue

    I am learning new coping skills like the rest of us. Moving out of the old lifestyle of addiction and its maladaptive coping strategies. We are all learning something new in this community. We can do this together. Getting out of me and joining the we is what works.

  • It's very hard and difficult first time in therapy I remember my first time I start with therapy my whole body was shaking and my neck and my stomach give me sharp pain in my chest I ended very sick to the point there had to find some one to ride me back home. I couldn't drive my car back home? But I keep getting better each visit .I wish I could keep seeing her but I'm was in shelter at times so when I moved I had to deal with someone else .please be strong and it's OK to cry and good news she understand your not first case or last this is her specialist.keep it up and hang in there .

    Big hugs

  • Hey christy

    Thanks for your kindness and support of me,

  • Your very welcome .

    Big hug

  • Hi wilderness scout, I am a psychotherapist and receiving energy therapy called Advanced Integrative Therapy, for CPTSD, from a qualified analyst and trauma therapist who teaches it too. No trauma therapy should be leaving you feeling re-traumatised. Therapist should be checking with you how you are feeling throughout the session and implementing techniques to relieve you of your symptoms. Tell her how you have been feeling, quite often you need to go through the techniques more than once to achieve full results. I end each session with an 'installation' which helps protect me from retraumatising and leaves me calm. A good thing to do between sessions too! If you don't do this maybe you could ask your therapist.

  • I was seeing a therapist doing EFT for 2 years. I had to be really careful not to do too much because I would get triggered and hard to function in every day life. The therapist saw that and my psychiatrist talked to her once because we had to slow down even more at one point. I had to stop these session summer mainly because of money, but also because I felt like it wasn't doing much for me right now. I might go back of if I need additional help working through stuff. I am finding that energy work and learning to feel safe with other therapists is so triggering for me that I am better off keeping things simple with self meditation, my animals, my regular therapist and my doc. EFT did help me break thru some blocks so I could build confidence and learn to feel safer and even with my present therapist. Just need a break and keeps things simple for now. Amazing how much I am moving forward at an easier pace by doing this.

    I know how hard it is to wanting the bad stuff to come out so you can heal and enjoy life more and dealing with the triggering emotions that come up during in the process. I think we all know we have to take it slow at some level.

    Take care!

  • Hello parrotlets

    Thanks for your kind comments, sharing your experiences and your hope with me. I feel aprt of when people in this safe community they love me until I can love myself. Thanks for giving me your time and attention it really nurtures me. Nurturing is what I never got from my family of origin.

  • I am in the same boat. So glad it helped.

  • Hello parrotlets

    Thanks for your kind comments, sharing your experiences and your hope with me. I feel aprt of when people in this safe community they love me until I can love myself. Thanks for giving me your time and attention it really nurtures me. Nurturing is what I never got from my family of origin.

  • Hello parrotlets

    Thanks for your kind comments, sharing your experiences and your hope with me. I feel aprt of when people in this safe community they love me until I can love myself. Thanks for giving me your time and attention it really nurtures me. Nurturing is what I never got from my family of origin.

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