I never got to be mad

[Malumaf]

Does anyone else just feel like with what happened they weren’t allowed to be mad and they were just dismissed almost, expected to just move on and get over it, and now you’re just like bottling it all up and every once in a while you just snap and have a breakdown?

[brokenlight]

Yes, unfortunately I can relate to this

[Malumaf in reply to brokenlight]

It’s like the worst feeling, cuz you didn’t get to scream in whoever’s face who caused it, you didn’t get closure, and now I’m just like sitting here and I absolutely can’t figure out how to work through it

[brokenlight in reply to Malumaf]

I get that.

Journaling may help. Or making a recording of of what you would have said or wanted to actually say & then delete it.

I think it’s important to get it out. It’s challenging & I struggle with anger a lot.

Best of luck to you ✨

[Malumaf in reply to brokenlight]

Thank you for the suggestions, it felt a bit better to write this and know I’m not the only one, I’m gonna try both of those

[Walkathon]

Yes and the only people you get to talk to are total strangers because those you love can’t deal with it even though they are the ones who need to hear what you went through so they can empathise, but it’s too hard for them to hear it!

[Malumaf in reply to Walkathon]

Exactly they almost get tired of hearing it is what it feels like,

[Walkathon in reply to Malumaf]

Yep

[weegmack]

Oh my goodness, yes. Yes I do. I’m so glad you posted this. I’ve never been allowed to be angry about what my mother has done to me. I’m supposed to be forgiving and care for her. So I walk about like a pressure cooker 😕

[Malumaf in reply to weegmack]

Exactly like we’re supposed to better than the people who did this to us, but why don’t we get the right to not be so good and just be angry? To not just let it go and forgive, but to feel what we feel because we have a serious condition

[weegmack in reply to Malumaf]

Exactly. I come from a Christian family, so you can imagine the forgiveness message that is rammed down my throat all the time. We are hurt, yet we are meant to not upset the ones who hurt us. If we get angry, we get accused of not moving on, or being unforgiving. They don’t realise what they’ve done to us 😕

[Malumaf in reply to weegmack]

Exactly, like I’m diagnosed with a serious illness, why can’t I do what I need to do to be okay, like they hurt me, they don’t deserve it, I wanna be our first and make sure I’m okay

[weegmack in reply to Malumaf]

In my case, my mother and my sister don’t want to admit what they have been like....and continue to be like. They won’t change and they hide behind their own ignorance

[Malumaf in reply to weegmack]

The person who gave me this ran away while denying what happened the whole time

[infogoddess04]

I wasn't able to be angry as a child or in my marriage. Im learning to deal with expressing it now.

[aujoymyjoy]

Yes, I found other ways to vent that closeted rage at undeserved actions forced on myself. I took all of the glass containers from the recycle bin and smashed them to pieces inside a box in the recycle bin. I threw rocks at a stream and screamed out everything I wanted to say. I picked up sticks and hit them on the trunks of nearby trees. It is a legal way to vent until I finally cry. For me, anger is on the surface of my wounds, and underneath is great disappointment and sadness. Neither is acceptable openly in my US society, which makes me wonder, false living is?

[SavingGrace Administrator]

Yes, recently I have taken up martial arts, which like yoga or tai chi, transforms negative energy into positive energy through training of repetitive moves. I love it!

[Silentrider13]

Hey I am fairly new here, my name is Janet, did you ever think it's not you. The person who can controlling you is a Narcissist People cause you for thinking that you have no rights. You a Victim and their abusing you. I lived narcissist relationship and got out and it wasn't easy. He treated exactly like what you are going, and victims and you find help support group in town and State, and go on internet more. Look it up and search what services you needs. Don't let them win, their evil, and they think they are better then Jesus Christ. They also think they can would rewrite the Bible. That is how Weak and Pathetic they. I am there for you stay in touch. Janet Silentrider