I grew up with neglected or hurt by the adults around me and ive come to realize I need to nurture my inner child who was hurt by all the adults growing up and try re-parenting myself since I can’t/couldn’t trust my own parents or anyone else to do that for me. I keep in mind something I heard about how to remember to be kinder to yourself from someone else’s therapist- imagine your 10 year old self is sitting in front of you; Would you talk to them the way you hyper criticize yourself now? no, of course not, no good person would or should bully a child like that so why do you criticize yourself so harshly ‘now’?
Anytime those harsh inner thoughts in my head (my depression, anxiety and ptsd rearing its head) tell me im stupid, lazy, etc. I respond to it immediately out loud to myself in a way I would to 10y/o me- “you’re not stupid, its just a jar, youll get it open or just ask for help”, “you’re not lazy, you’re overwhelmed and have anxiety”, “you’re not useless, you’re doing ‘your’ best and thats all you ‘can’ do”, “stop, youll only make yourself miserable comparing yourself to others like that”
Has someone else tried re-parenting or just being kinder to themselves and found ways/methods that help? Im still working on it, reminding myself that my feelings and my self do matter and wonder what worked for others so maybe I can get better at it. please comment, im interested in what has worked for y’all.