Things are not good

This is a place i feel safe you all have helped me through really horrible times.

I am finely on higher tablets for my anxiety.

I get my good days and my bad days with my mental health and i wish that was the only thing i was dealing with.

My relationship is not doing well again he can get so angry its scary at times. He is doing more weed and drinks everyday again .

And if that's not enough on my plate there is something wrong with my money I am getting. I am on a joint clam with my bf before going on a joint clam he would get 200 every 2 weeks when we done a joint clam 3 years ago i only see and get 50 he's mum has the control of he's money. She told me that the benefits only added 50 more to he's money as a joint clam. I all ways found it wired as when u are in a joint clam they don't just add 50 to it. Any ways there is so much going on with that. Like she never showed me any paperwork telling me how much we get when i ask its all ways excuse so i never see it. My step dad has been helping me look things up on the gov sit u can see the benefits u get but with mine there is nothing also when i was getting my other benefits when i was at the flat. It shows me getting my pension money from the benefits but ever since i moved here and done the joint clam i got no pension money going in there is no sign on me being in the benefits they tell me I am on. I hope i am not confusing any of u i am trying to explain the best i can. I am trying to find out more about this. I thought i could trust them but deep down i all ways know something was up

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Hello

I am sorry to read your post you sound like you are in quite a difficult situation

I would never tell anyone what to do in a relationship but reading your post I would say this sounds a very unhealthy relationship you are in and I wonder how much it is helping you with your Mental Health and your well being

No partner should be getting angry and making someone feel fearful , the drugs etc will be playing a big part no doubt but that is not your problem you have your own to deal with like I have my own Mental Health to deal with and I could not cope or live with someone that treated me that way or was using drugs it would take me down , I would have to leave

It sounds like something is strange regarding this claim

Have you thought about phoning DWP and asking them directly how much of the claim is been awarded to you ?

I am not sure why you are been left in the dark about what is awarded it sounds like something is not right

What benefits are you on ?

If you are on Universal credit this link explains what you should get and how it is worked out

moneyadviceservice.org.uk/e...

I would think about your relationship and ask how healthy it is as well as phoning Benefits and asking if they could send you a copy of the claim and a run down of what you are been paid , tell them you have lost the original

You could even be honest with them and tell them what you are been given , I know I would

You are worth more than accepting this behaviour from others and I hope you know that and will look after your best interests

Take Care

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Thank you i wish i could leave but its not that simple. We get ESA from what i got told. I been finding it hard to get work all so my social anxiety makes me terrified to work with people. I feel so stuck I am going to try find out more about the benefit i get. i know something does not feel right about it.

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I can understand things may not be so simple but there is always a way even when you feel there isn't and you certainly don't deserve what is happening no matter what

I would contact the Benefits Department I agree this all does not seem right at all but they should be able to give you the answers

Let us know how you get on x

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I am calling them now hope i get some answers to all of this

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Good for you , let us know how you get on x