Skunk ruining my life but don't touch it.

[Dodo777]

My son has asked for more money so far he's eaten half my bank account he pays me some back but asks for it back in drips. The worse thing of it all is its his mother that is selling it and she knows its me footing the bill continuously. I have an illness where if I get stressed I cant drink or eat because the muscles in my esophugus tighten. I 'm getting I hate going out and feel i'm just waiting for his texts.

[sweetiepye]

You don't say how old your son is so I;m going to assume he is old enough to support himself. Let him do that. The more you help him the less he will help himself. You need to be able to take care of yourself as you age so you're going to need your money. Tell your son your money is now invested and there is a penalty to take it out. This is true, you are investing in yourself . you don't have to take his texts all the time. Why don't you take a little trip and give yourself a break from all the turmoil you've been going through. Pam

[Dodo777 in reply to sweetiepye]

Thank you Pam I will keep on at him and he knows I want certain big cash items that I been wanting to get. Thank you.

[sweetiepye in reply to Dodo777]

You are so welcome. I hope all goes well. Pam

[Jeff1943]

Dodo, the time has come to put yourself first. You are doing your son no favours by supplying him with money to buy that mind bending s**t called skunk. As for his mother supplying it, a mother is supposed to protect her children from drugs, not supply them to him.

You must put yourself first and put your son's interests first too because both your interests coincide - I know you aren't feeling strong right now, Dodo, but you must tell your son the skunk will destroy his health causing him paranoia and black depression so you're not going to lend him any more money AND ANYWAY HE'S CLEANED YOU OUT OF YOUR SAVINGS. Infact ask him if he can lend you some money until payday.

I know you don't feel strong right now but you have the strength and the courage to make a stand now, otherwise your son will end up with major mental health issues and you'll end up skint. So make that stand, Dodo, you CAN do it and it won't be as hard as you think. Tell him whay you've decided - and then switch your phone off and ignore any texts for money, just ignore them. You can do it, Dodo.

[Dodo777 in reply to Jeff1943]

I know your right all the way. Thank you very much.

[Kiwimama]

As a parent of 2 young men.... if your son is an adult and is taking advantage of you to fund his lifestyle then by giving him money you are enabling him to do so and preventing him from learni g to support himself and become a good provider for his own children. By telling him... " I love you son but you're a man now and I have confidence in your ability to meet your own financial responsibiilities so I am no longer able to help you by providing you with money to buy the things you want. Its time for you to take responsibilty for financing your life."

[Dodo777]

I know but there is a lot more to our lives , guilt is one . He is trying but he has mental health issues to boot but thank you so much for your input.☺

[Jeff1943]

Dodo777, it's time to do the hard thing, time for tough love. I was in a similar position to you with one of my grandsons but he eventually cleaned up his act and he's feeling so much better for it. I wish the same for your son.