Worried stressed and afraid.

[Dodo777]

My son just came in demanding 40 quid. He gets more money than me he's been drinking kicked off over his mothers as well. He wants skunk and also when I went to cash point he stole tins of dog meat I keep for when I look after x's dog. He is getting on my nerves. Borrowing money nearly every other day. I want an excuse not to lend him so much every month so I am going to make out the debit card was chewed up my cash machine. He owes so much out to family. Threatening them , its all coming to ahead and he will end up back in prison. I also found out he's been taking diazepam. He needs help but will not get it. I know he will have no choice when he hits bottom. I love him but now I know its time to cut strings because he's become a selfish glutton. Its only because I lent him money he didn't kick off hear.

[Hidden]

Hello Dodo

I am so sorry to read what has happened today with your Son and how it has upset you

I also am a Mum and know how we hate to say no , but how can they learn if we don't ?

Your Son really sounds like he needs help but I don't think by giving him what is not good for him is going to help him , it is just helping to feed his addictions and problems and that is not the answer , maybe as hard as it would be for you to stand and watch but if he hits rock bottom and even if he ended up in prison he would get the help he needed , I know that is drastic but when I read your post I thought I would have anxiety having to live like this

Think about what " you " could do with that extra cash you keep handing over ?

You struggle at times and that could possibly help so you do not have to struggle and with your own issues you need and even if you don't believe it you " deserve " it , you are not a bank !

I really hope I have not offended you in any way with my reply but I say it because I care

Stay Strong

Take Care x

[Dodo777 in reply to Hidden]

No your so right and after tonight things are going to change believe me. This is the last straw. He's a spoilt git and I've seen it for the first time. Really had enough. I will be up all night now so will his mam who got work in the morning we've both had a good chat so he's in for a rude awakening tomorrow. Thanks though Bounce x.

[Hidden in reply to Dodo777]

Try to get some rest Dodo , I know it is never easy when there is upset , but tell yourself there is nothing you can do tonight , nothing will change tonight so if you possibly can get some sleep because it will help you to deal with whatever tomorrow brings x

[greeneyes2 in reply to Hidden]

How's Bounce today?

[greeneyes2]

Just read this Dodo and that's awful the position you seem to find yourself in. Let us know how you are today x

[Dodo777 in reply to greeneyes2]

I am fine now just meditated for 15 minutes which I should of done this morning. I haven't seen my boy all day. He knows he was in the wrong. He also lost my memory stick which someone recorded loads of films gutted.

[jennyjolly]

You're too soft with him and it's not doing anyone any favours.

.Next time he calls round tell him to f... off

Tough love

.Being afraid of his carrying on when he doesn't get what he wants is encouraging his bad behaviour

he's a spoilt little hoolie whose bad behaviour should have been knocked on the head years ago

Sorry if I've spoken harshly.

.I've had a husband like him that I indulged for years, too scared to stand up to him.