new, needing support

[mia417]

hi, i got this app when the crisis counselor i texted suggested it to me. i already feel welcomed by the community... today at school i had my usual talk with my counselor (i go to an alternative trauma sensitive school, so it’s normal for me to confide in her. i have for a year.) and today she pulled me out of my final class for the day to inform me that she’d called my parents and set an appointment to meet all together on wednesday. i was furious, ive told her how i cant trust my parents, i felt that my trust was broken with her. i ran out of the school and had a rough bus ride home, violently sobbing in fear of what i’d come home to. as i walked in the door i was screamed at, my step father told me that i cant talk to other people outside of my family about my issues. and even after hearing about how they’ve (my parents) make me feel hopeless and like nobody cares about me, they didnt bother to talk to me and ask what was wrong or how they could have possibly made me feel this way. now i have a whole weekend before i go back to school, and i’m dreading every second of it. i cant even draw or listen to music without busting into tears.

[Hidden]

Oh that’s awful! Your step dad sounds like a big problem, wanting to keep secrets in the family and not wanting to talk things out. Well, if anyone becomes physically aggressive with you make sure you call the police. I’m sure your counselor meant well, but yes she did violate your confidentiality and that’s just awful. Is there a person above her you can go to and let them know what happened?

[mia417 in reply to Hidden]

thank you for the reply, it means so much to me (especially after spending hours looking for free support). and i think so. ill try talking with the principal on monday morning. i’m just anxious about being invalidated or dismissed. and having to confront him in the first place is scary too. i dont want him to say something like “well you must’ve said something that made her feel the need to inform your parents.” and i dont wanna have to run into that wall and explain why it was severely personal and damaging to my mental health. just this incident today has made me feel much worse about my future

[Hidden in reply to mia417]

Well, the principal may take the counselors side, but you can also tell him what your stepdad said to you as evidence of why that was harmful to you. On that basis alone your concern is valid no matter how the principal may try to spin it. Ultimately you have only yourself to worry about. there is a 12 step program called Codependents Anonymous that maybe helpful to you, also one called adult children of alcoholics. They are both great programs

[hypercat54]

Hi I am just wondering how old you are as normally they wouldn't tell your parents if you are under 16 unless they felt you were at risk of serious harm. x

[mia417 in reply to hypercat54]

i’ll be 17 in april, but the relationship i have with my counselor isn’t normal i guess? at my school there is a room called the haven and you can go there when you feel overwhelmed or stressed. i eat lunch in there every day and we talk, we also talk for longer periods outside of lunch too. she knows everything about my home life and how my parents have reacted to me asking for help in the past. in the past my parents have mocked me for asking for their consent to a free professional THERAPIST, and my counselor knows i cannot have personal conversations with them. she has background knowledge of my parents reactions, i believe she knew that was NOT a safe thing to do for me. especially on a friday, leaving me a whole weekend with them without the schools support.

[mia417 in reply to hypercat54]

she knows my anxiety is severe and that i have constant worrying thoughts. i feel so betrayed and that our trust is broken