First attempt at therapy was a disappointment

[mayanina]

I've been feeling really bad about anxiety lately, with insomnia and all that stuff. I finally went to therapy after a month of waiting for the guy... and it was horrible. The guy is a psychoanalyst, but since he also holds the psychologist title I didn't think it would matter that much. But he kept trying to come up with weird deep explanations for how I'm feeling how I'm feeling instead of doing what I expect a modern therapist to do: questionaries, talking through negative thought patterns, etc... He even brought up how I'm a "child" emotionally because I haven't had sexual relationships, which I think has 0 to do with my current anxiety problem. It all felt really condescencing and judging, with him fleshing out my emotional baggage and leaving it at that. I'm going to give him another session to test the waters, but I'm feeling really desolated because I don't feel any better and I was really looking forward to finally start therapy.

[Hidden]

One session is not enough..you need to atleast see your therapist a couple of more times..so are you saying these deep explanations were random?..if I was you, I will just say everything to him, spill everything out..He should be able to put one and one together and treat you correctly but it will take a couple of sessions..Just be open minded, he may uncover, reveal some things which may not seem clear to you now but later may make sense..

[mayanina in reply to Hidden]

He does not seem to be following the behavioral cognitive school, which is the one I trust the most. Instead, he seems to be following Freud in this day and age! I'm going to give him a couple of sessions because I can't judge just with one like you say, but I am no fan of his methods so far, and I left the session feeling worse than I entered.

[Hidden in reply to mayanina]

Yeh you gotta give him a chance..nothing wrong with seeing a couple of therapists..to be honest, at the end of the day it will be you that would help yourself..so go in there and blast them with everything, get it out..you will come to terms with yourself with abit of help..my therapist was hopeless..but it opened my eyes..

[Hidden]

I don't know about therapy but if you are feeling that this therapist isn't giving you what you need then, sure give him one more chance but if you still feel that it's not working then I would definitely move on and look for another. Why continue with something that is to your dissatisfaction, your not obligated to go this person in particular. We have choices. I have been in a situation where a professional did not attend to my needs at the time, I thank them for their services and moved on. A very big important case and yet I felt they would intimidate me because of their experience or knowledge. It is ok to say no thank you. I did that and glad I did. Worked out in my favor very well.

[mayanina in reply to Hidden]

Thank you very much for your reply! He is supposed to be very good at what he does, but I feel we just might not be a good fit as people.

[Hidden in reply to mayanina]

Yes, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I hope you find the one that meets" your" needs. Hang in there!

[Indigojoe]

Therapists are like Mango's. There's lots of them and choose again if you don't like the first one you picked.