Help My anxiety has caused me failure

[zaymohsan]

I started suffering from anxiety/depression a few years ago. I really miss the days when I used to be normal, live life to the fullest and take risk in everything. My anxiety has caused me so many failures the most painful one is my MA degree that even thou I managed to finish but didn't get the best mark in my thesis. I've always used to be one of the best students in my uni and I always used to get the best marks out there but unfortunately my anxiety has cause my concentration to decrease and my marks to drop. Now I am married and feel so worried about what I can do in the future I am doing nothing with my life and I can't seem to find the right career. Everything seems soo difficult at the moment and the easiest task has sort of become very difficult to finish. I've started my driving lesson nearly a year ago and I haven't finished yet! I need some advice and help on how to go out of this prison and become efficient and focused again!

[TheBlackdog]

Hi. It sounds like your being quite hard on yourself. You achieved a masters degree no matter what the grade. That's great. It takes hard work and determination to do that especially if you hold down a job too. I take my gat off to you. You should give yourself a pat on the back. Not say I didn't get a better grade! Plus you have stuck at the driving lessons. It doesn't matter how long it takes. You need to be a safe driver and if it isn't your time yet then don't be negative. Make yourself a goal to aim for. Put in for a test. I passed second time. Didn't make me feel less of a person. Set yourself small goals that are achievable in your life and then you should be able to complete them. There us always another way....

[zaymohsan in reply to TheBlackdog]

Thank you for your reply xx I didn't want to sound negative I know that I've worked very hard for my ma degree and I passed when I was pregnant aswell but my main issue at the moment is finding the right career path I moved from tunisia and now am living in the uk finding a job with an international degree and with no experience at hand is very difficult. What makes me even more cautious is the fact Everytime I think of applying for another ma job or intern I get negative thoughts that I won't be able to do it and am not ready for it because of my concentration problems! I went to see the gp and am waiting for speaking therapy appointment! I hope that would help me overcome this negativity in me and depressive waves!

[AMIGOMAN in reply to zaymohsan]

Hi.

Sorry to hear about your problems.

I honestly think that you will overcome them with ease once you look deeper into the cause of it.

I think you are strong minded and positive and you will recover in no time at all......

[AMIGOMAN]

Just don't go on any med's.

Ask for CBT

THAT'S drug-free therapy which is more effective than medication and none of the nasty SIDE-EFFECTS and STUFF !

Positive mental attitude will keep you fine.......

[zaymohsan]

Yes am already waiting for a CBT appointment thank you for your reply! I can't wait to recover and be the same when I was young

[AMIGOMAN]

Good stuff.

Yeah, mines is starting up soon ASWELL,

THEN recover Quicker,

INSHA-ALLAH