worried my boyfriend is losing interest in me/cheating?

[danielsc15]

hi again guys,

i’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year now, but there are some communication concerns that i’ve been having with him recently. he recently has not been texting me back for around 4 or 5 hours at a time. i don’t want to be that needy girlfriend that texts him every minute, so i just wait for him to respond, but it gives me such anxiety when he goes that long without at least telling me what he’s up to. he texts me in the morning, on his lunch & when he gets home from work during the week. he doesn’t work on weekends so i would think he would want to text me more frequently when he has his days off. it’s okay that he doesn’t text me back right away, it just bothers me that he can go that long without texting me back while being active on other social medias and apps he has and knowing he’s not busy or with friends or something. i also know he always has his phone on him. at least he does when we’re together. i almost feel like i’m not important enough to him to be responded to right away. i know i’m worrying a little too much about this, but it’s been really bothering me. i’m afraid he’s losing interest or starting to see or talk to someone else.

he also is a very quiet person in general. he’s always had that pinned against him by family & friends, which is okay! he just doesn’t really ever tell me how he’s feeling and promises me that he’ll tell me when something is wrong or bothering him, he just doesn’t.

i don’t like bringing up everything that bothers me to him because he knows i’m prone to worrying & getting really upset about things and i don’t like burdening him with my problems. whenever i bring up issues like this he just says i’m overthinking anyways.

this is my first relationship as well, so i don’t really know what to anticipate & what to look out for. if you guys could help me and give me some advice, that would be great.

thank you so much x

[Hateanxiety]

I can't seem to help my self with what I'm going through bit maybe o can help with some of you relationship worry. My husband whom I have known for 15 yrs will text me all through the week at work even after he just leaves the house,when he comes home he does not communicate much,why because he works long hard hours. The only day my husband has off is Sundays and you will rarely hear his voice on those days because he wants to sit back relax and unwind. Now when he has a good day or things didn't go so stressful that day at work then he will be talkative,loving and happy. Men have this ego and mind set that they are made of stone. Men are not always lovey dovey, "oh baby let's talk about our feeling". It does not sound like cheating to me,trust me I have been there many times with cheating incidence and there would be more signs that just not texting you for a few hours.

[danielsc15 in reply to Hateanxiety]

hey hateanxiety,

thank you for the reply! i’m sorry you’re going through that struggle, i know the feeling. my daddy acts that way sometimes and he works 10+ hours a day so i get the exhaustion view. when my boyfriend is in a bad mood or just acting a little off, i assume the worst & feel like it’s because of me, but sometimes he can just be stressed & not really want to communicate for awhile because of long days which i totally understand! i agree that men always want to act strong & made of stone and I get that my boyfriend isn’t as open with his feelings as i am, which is also okay!

thank you so much, i feel a little bit more relieved & i pray things get better for you!

[Hateanxiety]

Might I ask how old you are because you sound quiet young worrying about a text

[danielsc15 in reply to Hateanxiety]

I’m 20☺️

[Hateanxiety]

I honestly believe he loves you are would tell you otherwise at that age. If he still shows you the same love you had at the beginning or stronger than your doing fine. Kinda like my husband and i,when I touch him on the arm or something sometime he will feel shakey or get quiet,I asked once why he does that and he said "you know after 15 yrs I still get nerves like a teenager about to ask for his first kiss". And with him I can hear his voice when he comes home from work and right away my heart flutters. If you still have thone moments your just fine.

[danielsc15 in reply to Hateanxiety]

Thank you so much! ♥️