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I do not like the holidays at all. I was fine coming up to the week but now I have so much anxiety. I do not like to attend family gatherings. I hate being around my mother who is what I like to call textbook

Narcissist. My anxiety is through the roof. Any tips on how to manage through the holidays would be great.

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Jeff1943

Do what you fear and the death of fear is assured. Do it and accept the bad feelings, co-exist with them, accept them calmly for the time being. Yiur mother can't be that bad.

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User4567 in reply to Jeff1943

Yes she is

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Jeff1943 in reply to User4567

Then learn to perceive her in a different way.

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User4567 in reply to Jeff1943

Easy for you to say

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Jeff1943

Start an argument with her, she might change her ways. Maybe she doesn't know how annoying she is. Have you told her?

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User4567 in reply to Jeff1943

Yes for years n my siblings also have

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Jeff1943

Keep repeating, sometimes people don't get it the first time. Remind her you will be responsible for deciding what kind of nursing home she goes into eventually.

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User4567 in reply to Jeff1943

Now that made me laugh

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Beevee

People are always saying “There’s no place like home” but when you try and put your parents in one...

On a more serious note, have you tried floating above your Mum’s antics instead of taking the bait? In an anxious state, your tolerance levels are likely to be much lower so things that wouldn’t normally bother you will make you feel very irritable. Accept it all, including your Mother.

I used to call my Mum “Aunty” because she never let me do anything. She was anti this, anti that...😜

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User4567 in reply to Beevee

I am really good at ignoring her I’ve become accustomed to it but sometimes when I know I have to be around her for more than 5 hours I get frustrated

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sweetiepye

I had a similar experience with my Mother . Your Mother probably is that bad and she probably knows it. You won't be changing her anytime soon , use your energy where it will be useful. I handled my Mother by not giving her any personal information, keeping things on a casual basis. I would answer a question with a question while always being respectful. I would do my time and get the heck out of there. It won't be as bad if you have a plan, you'll feel more in control. Pam

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User4567 in reply to sweetiepye

You are so correct

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