Any advice please. I suffer from general anxiety, often having bad panic or anxiety attacks. I have had anxiety since my early 20s, and it has often had a negative effect on my life. I manage it as best as I can, and it has gone in peaks and troughs over the years. My anxiety attacks started on a holiday to Australia, and the problem is that I often get very anxious before and during a holiday abroad, probably because of the original association with my first panic attack being so far away from home.
My problem is that I am going on holiday to the Canary Islands this Saturday for a week with my partner, and am already having visions of the plane crashing, or me becoming ill while I am there and being unable to return home to our 2 cats. It is ridiculous, as my anxiety levels are building up and up, imagining all sorts of problems. I can't seem to stop this negative train of thoughts, it just gets worse. I genuinely do want to go on holiday, but then the nearer it approaches, I half wish I hadn't booked it, which is crazy!! I have a lovely partner, but he does not understand anxiety, as do many people who have never had it, so I tend to keep my feelings to myself whilst I am away. However, I really want to enjoy my 7 days in the sun, so I wondered if anyone who has a similar problem could give me any tips or help. Many thanks.
Hi laurajn087...it's unfortunate that the place we have our first anxiety attack can
become a trigger in itself. Mine was a grocery store. And yet rationally, we know that
the place itself did not cause the attack. Your anticipation or excitement of a new
surrounding was more responsible for that happening. You see our brain can't distinguish
between excitement and stress. Our body reacts the same to both emotional feelings.
The difference is that we don't usually get scared when we are excited and happy and
relaxed. I think of how lucky you are to be going to the Canary Islands this coming
weekend but your subconscious mind is focusing on the "what ifs" of last time.
Anticipational Anxiety can be just as real as actually already being on the islands.
And then you start worrying about the plane, what if you get sick and on and on.
It's like these things have already happened in which they didn't.
Try looking at the positive side of this beautiful 7 day trip with a partner you adore,
you are so blessed. Memories, good memories will be made that will last a lifetime.
Try looking at some Breathing Meditation exercises on YouTube. Breathing properly
can reduce your stress, lower your adrenaline and get rid of those negative thoughts.
Enjoy your holiday and let us know all about it when you get back. Bon Voyage
Have fun xx
Great message, Agora1! It's what I'd have wanted to hear if I were in the same situation. xx
Thanks SCC1 Let me know when you plan your next trip. lol xx
Probably not anytime soon. I have nowhere to go yet! Lol 😄
Hi Agora. Thanks very much for your advice. I will certainly try the breathing exercises. I definitely have a case of anticipational anxiety that's for sure!