Depression is getting worse.

[Dodo777]

Since my boy been in prison I find I feel lost. Not cleaning the house which is now making me feel overwhelmed. I am losing interest in things. I just feel awfully miserable and lonely. How long can I cope with this life . I have no interest in anything.

[Fearoffear]

Are you seeking counceling? Maybe look into a support group for parents of inmates. I think you need to talk to people who are going through the same things, so you can help people through their loneliness too. Hang in there, put some music on pick one task to do and complete it you will feel a sense of accomplishment and maybe can break down your other chores. You must take care of you though so when he gets out you can sit down and talk, go out to dinner maybe. Just know keeping yourself going and healthy helps him to know you will be alright until he gets out. Even though he is in jail he still worries about you and might even be stressing out himself in there too about you. Reassure him you are alright and will get through this and he will probably do the same. Hope this helps and he is home with you soon.

[greeneyes2]

Oh no sorry to hear that. What's happened with your son causing him to be in prison?

[Agora1]

Hi Dodo, I was out breathing in the air and meditating. Have you been doing that lately? Are you taking your medication for depression? Even skipping a dose or two can make a difference in how your feel. I know how lost and lonely you feel w/o your son. I wish I knew what I could suggest to you, to fill that gapping hole in your heart right now. Except that it isn't forever. If you could keep yourself busy in some way productive, the time will pass faster for you. When ever I would get down or feel so alone in this world, I always would say to myself that nothing is impossible in this life. As long as we have a breath in us, we can still find ways to go forward. Only death is final. Concentrate more on some of the things in life that make you happy no matter how small or insignificant you think they may be. Your guitar, eating chocolate, watching movies, having a car to drive, a roof over your head, you are kept warm and safe in your home. You have friends on the forum that you may never meet but who really care about you. You have a son you adore and love. New baby twin boys and on and on Dodo.

Do you remember the post I made about the Little Black Dot. Well this is one of those times for you that you are concentrating on that black dot, failing to see all that is around you.

Life can be lonely for all of us, it's up to us to create joy. Find the peace you need to console you right now by finding that quiet place, sitting and meditating outside. It will freshen your thoughts in your mind and maybe even make you smile for a moment. Breathe Dodo, Breathe We care x

[Dodo777 in reply to Agora1]

Yea I getting dressed drive to the hospital car park and meditate . I didn't do one yesterday. See how I feel them been in the house for days.

[Agora1 in reply to Dodo777]

Dodo, you need to get out. I think it will make you feel better.

Let us know how you are when you get back. Be safe.

[Dodo777 in reply to Agora1]

Yea you was right I did go out and do feel better.

[Agora1 in reply to Dodo777]

We've got to do that for ourselves Dodo. If the weather is bad, I turn to YouTube. Tune into anything up beat. Jokes, Quizzes, Music etc anything to get that "me" time in that takes us on a little respite in order to regenerate our mental state.

I'm glad you did it and are feeling better. Enjoy the rest of your evening. We care.

[Dodo777 in reply to Agora1]

I think sometimes I am fighting to stay moderately sane.

[Dodo777 in reply to Agora1]

Well i took a Mitrazipine and went to my quiet place done 25 minutes meditation and do feel much better. I guess staying in for days plays with the mind a bit. Thanks everyone who replied. 😊

[Jeff1943]

Sorry to disagree with you, Dodo, but it's incorrect to say you have no interest in anything, you have your interest in your son and helping him in his rehabilitation and that can become near enough a full time job for you his mother. There are prison visits, emails and letters to him and phone calls from him, as you know they are very important to offenders. There's much for you to talk to him about, it's never too soon to start planning for his release and it's important to persuade him to avoid the temptations of drugs which are rife in prisons. He needs your support and attention and guidance more than ever. Not to mention your money, not to little, not too much. It makes life bearable, the few comforts a weekly allowance can bring. Google 'prisoners money' for a website where you can transfer money from your bank to his prison account (if you're in the u.k.), chequestake ages to clear and postal orders cost a fortune in commission.You probably know all this any way.

You now have a big new interest in life, helping him to become a worthwhile member of the community, you won't have a spare moment. My grandson is in the Big House so I know what it's like, another year to serve then I'll be reaching for the valium a bit more often. He's turned himself round while inside, learnt loads of job skills, no drink, no drugs. Off to see him on Saturday, 250 mile round trip, highlight of our week.

So don't worry, Dodo, when he's settled in you'll have plenty to do, almost a full time job, put the cleaning on hold, that's not so important now.

[Dodo777 in reply to Jeff1943]

I know now I plan to phone the Prison website tomorrow to put my bank details on there to give my boy money and yes I agree I do have interests I think I just got caught up thinking to much .

Thanks for reply.

[Jeff1943]

Sorry, Dodo, I presumed you were his mum, didn't realise you're his dad, still what I say still goes, our boy is 28 too.

[Dodo777 in reply to Jeff1943]

True

[Hidden]

Never rely on others for your happiness.

[Dodo777 in reply to Hidden]

Believeme I know but missing my son because I love not because he makes me happy. Thanks for your response and right you are.

[Hidden in reply to Dodo777]

Sorry I thought you were a woman and your bf was in prison !!

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