Afraid to be alone

[Suz65]

I have been looking around the app and found this group. I am also on the Anxiety and Depression group.

I have had Anxiety attacks since I was 16. I had been doing really well and now my safe person has gone into hospice.

I am afraid to be alone and I have to because husband has to work. I seriously need help and advice on how to be able to do this. I will be alone 9 hours a day Mon-Fri.

I am going thru a med increase (med phobic) so Anxiety is doubled because of that.

I can't sleep good, I am waking up every few hours and then I get up at 6:45 am or so. I go outside and look around to see who is home around me. Almost everyone on my street leaves early morning. Then I go inside and look out my windows to make sure the few that are home haven't left. My mother in law is staying with me during the days right now.

Please if anyone can tell me how to deal with this I would appreciate it.

Terrified to be alone 💕

[tamka38]

Just remind yourself is only anxiety and it can't harm u and do mediation daily and pray listen to music

[Suz65 in reply to tamka38]

Thank you 💕 I am really trying to get. grip on this.

[tamka38 in reply to Suz65]

U can do it I believe in you and if u do have a panic attack don't worry it will pass. And it want kill u because u had them before keep busy doing something u love doing. Exercise always help to keep your mind busy

[janaa1]

First let me say, I'm so sorry about your safe person going into hospice. My thoughts are with you. Being alone is one of my main triggers also, so I can totally identify with you. I am a single mother, so I am alone or FEEL alone a lot. Going to bed with the lamp and TV on is my normal. Nights are the hardest time to get through because no one around me is up and it's literally just me alone with my thoughts.

One thing I have found that helps is to watch or read something funny. Laughter helps so much, and not only is it a great distraction, but you feel great after a good laugh, which pushes out the anxiety.

Do you like to read or do you have a hobby? These have helped me also. Anything that distracts my focus from the fact that I'm alone.

I'm glad you have your mother-in-law for the time being.

With new meds, I always make sure I'm around someone I trust the first time I take it. Maybe that would help if that's possible for you.

I feel like I'm always plugging this forum, but it really is great for beating the fear of being alone. There are people on here from all over, so there's usually someone up and willing to chat most times, I've found.

I hope you conquer this! Hang in there!

[noemikahle]

I still struggle with the same thing but it has gotten better. For me what helped was taking medications and therapy. I also do use tv as a distraction ( mostly stupid reality shows) that calm me down. Going outdoors also helped to calm me down, I still don't like to be alone but I can tolerate it Good luck.