Dont want to be alone

[Arlene99]

I’m stressing out big time as my husband is going away on holiday with my son & his partner for a week. I had the opportunity to go too, but because of my stress/anxiety issues I don’t want to be away from home. I want my husband to go as he needs this holiday as he is recovering from an illness, so I don’t want to upset him by telling him how bad I’m feeling about being left alone.

[Agora1]

Hi Arlene, this happens quite frequently with anxiety. We don't want to go with

and yet we are afraid to stay home alone. This all boils down to the "what ifs" taking

over. Use this time being in your safe zone to work on yourself. You now have a lot

of free "me time" ahead of you.

Find something that works for you and practice it daily, several times a day. By

reducing the stress and fear, your mind/body connection will settle down tremendously.

The first day can be a little uncomfortable until you adjust to being alone. After that,

the days will go by quicker and with less effort. Accept the quiet time to allow your

over sensitized nervous system to settle down.

I usually suggest using the forum as a support tool to get you through any difficult

times. After all, where else can you find 24/7 understanding and caring people to

turn to with the press of a "send" button. You are going to be okay. Right now it's

the thought that's distressing you. You are never alone. You've got this xx

[Arlene99 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you so much for ur reply Agora......it’s just beginning to sink in now that I am going to be alone for the week. I will take on board what you have said & I must get through this.....I know he needs this break away and I’m not going to spoil it for him by telling him how bad I feel. And ur so right it’s great to have this non judgmental forum to come to for help & support u will defo hear from me during my lonely time 🤔🤔x

[Agora1 in reply to Arlene99]

Arlene, I'll be right here. xx

[Arlene99 in reply to Agora1]

Thank u Agora....it means so much to have the support of good people on this forum x

[sunandbutterfly in reply to Arlene99]

How is it going so far?

As Angora mentioned, I hope that you are able to get some rest and recovery/relaxation time. You can get through this. Happy Thanksgiving.

[Arlene99 in reply to sunandbutterfly]

Thank u x