I was a very bubbly, happy, young woman who was positive about life and had very little problems...until this time 2 years ago.
I am now 22 and I've figured out what has changed my mental state and brought a lot of unhappiness in my life; boys. Boys have killed my self esteem, and for the last two years I have felt not good enough. My thinking has become so irrational and I've never compared my life to others until 2 years ago. Here's a summary of the events:
2 years ago - the first boy I liked.. he slept with a lot of girls and my best friend hated him as he was a bad influence. He didn't like me back & I was heartbroken for the summer.. got over it
7 months later - happened to see each other on a night out got drunk and lost my virginity to him. Realised he wasn't worth it & soon after he had a new girlfriend..
1 month later - got with guy number 2, slept with him.. we talked for a few months and then he never messaged.
1 month later - guy from uni thought I was hot on a night out.. we slept together and I loved his confidence .. got loads of feelings for him and I was just a side plate.. he had slept with many girls at the same time then told me to piss off as he had a gf.. I was heartbroken over the summer.
During the summer - I realised one of these boys gave me 2 STDs... got very ill and one std took 3 months to clear it was the hardest summer of my life. During summer guy no2 started messaging but I played hard to get. He took me on dates after 5 months of talking then we got official. I broke up with him after a month as he treated me like he didn't care and I cried and was sad a lot. Seen on his social media he is out with another girl and I feel crap.
Why is it the boys who hurt me so much end up on the better end with a new partner while I struggle to see my best friends happy in relationships. I'm lonely, trying to better my life and I'm still getting treated like I'm worthless please help me.. it's making me ill thinking so negatively