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[chloehodson8112]

im new on here im 16 and ive recently moved into semi independant living and i might be pregnant i have major anxiety issues but im too scared to get myself diagnosed i have bad attatchment issues and i get anxious about going to school i have three months left until i finish gcse but i dont think i can go through with it please help me

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Hello

Why are you in independent living at the moment ? you don't have to answer that of course but sometimes a bigger picture can help us to think what we could maybe suggest

Bless you I can imagine you are feeling fearful especially about maybe been pregnant , but don't ignore this , if you really feel you could be then either buy a pregnancy test and do it or see your Doctor and if you were then you could decide what you needed to do for you which ever would be the best way to go and if you are not then that is one worry that you can put down and remember you won't be the first 16 year old to maybe think they are pregnant so don't feel you are but you will get through it one way or another

Do you have any kind of support network around you ?

I really would hope you have and you need to be telling someone you can trust about how you are feeling because if people don't know they cannot help and support you and as long as you pick someone you trust do not be afraid to tell them just how bad things seem at the moment

Break 3 months down and that is 12 weeks , 12 weeks is not long at all , and we all can do something for 12 weeks knowing once we have we don't have to do or go through that again

Your GCSE'S are very important , without them you will struggle in life and even though things do not seem great at the moment they will improve and you will make it harder on yourself to make those improvements without those exams , so again talk with your teachers , tell them how you feel they are there to support you and help you through these exams and remember it is 12 weeks only you have to go to School not a life time and if you need to break those 12 weeks up into a week at a time and tell yourself for this week I will go and I can get through a week of School

Others will reply as they see your post and chat and give you advise and keep coming back and express how you feel if it helps you get through this

Good Luck , I know you can do this

Take Care x

[Peacewithin1 in reply to Hidden]

Your response is perfect. ❤

[chloehodson8112 in reply to Hidden]

i moved into semi independant as i didnt want to be in foster care anymore its a team called 16 plus they give you 57.90 a week for food shopping and social money i wanted to live alone as i felt uncomfortable living with my foster sibling i went to the doctors due to the scare about pregnancy and found out it was just a scare im very relieved however i think everything is just getting abit too much for me

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Hello

First I am pleased to hear it was just a scare and I hope that has took some pressure of such young shoulders

You are very independent loving on your own at such a young age and I am so sorry that family life has not worked out which has led you to make this very big decision , you sound like you are having to grow up a lot quicker than your age which much put stress on you , but I also have a feeling you will be fine and grow up to be a very independent strong young lady

I would hope even though you are living on your own you are getting some kind of support with been so young

Did you mention to the Doctor how you were feeling regarding your anxiety ?

There is no shame in doing so and you really need to be talking with anyone that can offer you support

It is not a very large amount of money they give you and expect you to live on , is there any chance you could get a Saturday job at all ? this would maybe help you not just financially but with your confidence to

Always make sure your rent is paid , bills , and I know it is not a lot you are getting but that you have some food on the table

Potatoes I feel when you are on a budget is a must have as you can never go wrong with a nice bakes potato and you can add fillings like beans and cheese and they are filling to

You can make chips with potatoes and if you have eggs in then chips and eggs are lovely one of my favorites

Not sure why I am going on so much about food but I really am saying I hope you are taking really good care of yourself and don't forget we have Food Banks and if you are eligible , sign up and get down there

We are all about if you need to talk

Take Care x

[chloehodson8112 in reply to Hidden]

i dont start paying rent till next year due to my age and im too scared to tell the doctor ill message you on this hold onx

[Hidden in reply to chloehodson8112]

Pleased that at the moment you have no rent to pay that helps a little bit

Please don't be afraid to tell your Doctor how you feel , that is what they are there for and trust me they will think no less of you for telling them plus anything you do tell them is in confidence and I can assure you they will have heard it all before whatever you have to say

If you struggle talking and explaining in person, how about writing down how you are feeling and making an appointment and when you go in saying I struggle to express myself when talking would you read this

I have done this in the past and they are happy to read what you have put and then they help to open the conversation up with you and it runs a lot more smoothly

I do hope you will give it ago , I was young when I started with anxiety etc and I so wish I had got support then even though there was not as much about like there is now , don't make the same mistake as I did which resulted in years of suffering get that support now instead x