PLEASE READ AND TRUST ME!

[Hope4TheBest07]

HEY GUYS I TOOK A BREAK FROM THESE ANXIETY SITES AND RESEARCHING AND GUESS WHAT?! THINGS HAVE BEEN GETTING BETTER. I READ MY POSTS FROM LAST WEEK AND REALIZED HOW MUCH I WAS IN A DEEP HOLE. I FINALLY WENT OUT, I EVEN HAD DRINKS ON SATURDAY NIGHT WITH MY FAMILY, I LANDED A JOB THAT I REALLY WANTED AND GOT THE OFFER TODAY AND YESTERDAY I WENT FOR A DRINK AND ATE OUT FINALLY. I FEEL THAT WHEN WE FORCE OURSELVES TO GO OUT AND LIVE AGAIN IT REALLY WORKS. THE WEIRD IMPENDING DOOM THOUGHTS COME INTO PLAY BUT NOT AS FREQUENT AND I AM TAKING THINGS STEP BY STEP. I STILL HAVE SOME WAY TO GO THOUGH. STILL HAVE ANXIETY IN THE AM BUT IVE BEEN SLEEPING MUCH BETTER. BUT A GOOD ADVICE IS TAKE A BREAK FROM THESE SITES AND RESEARCHING ANXIETY. TRUST ME BECAUSE IF U READ MY PREVIOUS POSTS U WILL SEE HOW BAD I WAS AND IM STILL FIGHTING

[Agora1]

Hope4TheBest07, I'm so glad to hear that. I've always said whatever works is what you go with. My only concern is just so you don't substitute drinking in feeling good. Good luck with the job offer. Continue feeling good.

[Hope4TheBest07 in reply to Agora1]

Yes you're right, I made sure I felt good first and then felt good enough to have a drink lol I made sure to feel good first lol thanks!

[RyRywifey]

Yaaaaaay you!!!!! This is great news!!! I'm so happy for you!!

[Hope4TheBest07 in reply to RyRywifey]

I'm still a work in progress! But trying to get to 100% its a long road but gotta fight

[Hope4TheBest07 in reply to RyRywifey]

Thank you! Still have a ways to go but better than I was! Its about saying "F" it and do you!

[aminaismail]

yay! good on you, please continue what your'e doing !!

[Hope4TheBest07 in reply to aminaismail]

I will continue to push!

[Danielleapet]

Hi so glad your feeling better #normal and doing normal things Iv just looked back on your posts and sounds very similar to what I'm going through right now and I can't seem to get out of it Iv never been this ill for this long (9 days now) my husband has had to take this week off work due to how bad my anxiety is I really hope I get better like you have and I can't start to enjoy life again we have an 18 mth old baby and I need to get well . I can see why you've come off sights like this it's addictive and the more you read etc the more you think Iv found this sight very helpful but yes in one respect maybe good to come away from it for a while x

[Shezow in reply to Danielleapet]

Hi

Just saw your comment and had to reply. My advice would be, send your husband back to work, this really helped me because I found getting back to some form of normality gave me my life back, good luck!

[Danielleapet in reply to Shezow]

Hi thank you for your advice I will sleep on it and see how I feel tomorrow about him returning to work today has been really bad for me 😢 X

[Hope4TheBest07 in reply to Danielleapet]

Yes trust me, give anxiety a break. I'm only on because I received email notifications and I wanted to respond to everyone. Looking at other stories etc made me feel worse and just studying anxiety 24/7. Give it a break and let it flow trust me.

[Danielleapet in reply to Hope4TheBest07]

Hi Hun yes your right it it making me worse reading everyone else's stories like there was a one where a girl lost her kids due to anxiety disorder depression that sent me right into a panic attack 😢 Thanks for your advice xxx

[susannaylor]

Hello hopeforthebesr07 x do glad to hear that you have achieved this fir yourself x yes I agree you need to just go and do it x what ever you need to do and you WILL GET there x I'm so happy for you x

[Hope4TheBest07 in reply to susannaylor]

Thanks!

[Jill76]

Good for you Hun, that's great news! Keep doing what you're doing and fight on! God bless you💖☺️

[Hope4TheBest07 in reply to Jill76]

Thanks!!

[CH33]

I think you're right. Whilst these sites help to distinguish some of your symptoms and make you see that you aren't the only one, they can also keep you in the same state and exasperate you and your recovery because you find MORE to worry over. They are addictive really. Getting out and getting busy is the best way to forget about what it is you torture yourself with and the symptoms of that. Best of luck.

[Hope4TheBest07 in reply to CH33]

It is very hard but just going out there getting in the swing of things is key. Its scary but after awhile u get used to being outward instead of inward. It goes away SLOOOOWLY but u feel the difference.

[Hidden]

Well done! focusing on your life instead of your anxiety is definitely the way forward,whichever way you do it! Hope you go from strength to strength, Good luck.

[Alun001]

This is a great post,well done hope4thebest07 yes it is certainly true regular reading of posts can restimulated our own feelings and reactions. Of course we are all different and I believe this site should be seen as part of a solution based action plan.

I used an anxiety program by a guy called Mahoney in Cheshire, in fact I travelled to see him several times, and he also said support groups are part of the healing process not the solution. So well done you, I too am on a great journey now and have been for the last 11 months, so very pleased for you. You have a great journey ahead.

Anxiety feelings don't hurt us, panic attacks don't hurt us, we just need to relearn our own authority in our life, and start pushing back boundaries and limitations we have placed on ourselves or allowed others to place upon us ( thank you Mahoney!)

I hope your journey gets better and better. And if we can do it, anyone can, we just need to get ourselves in the right place and the right moment, for that moment of change which has been on its way to us for a long time, to touch us, and bring welcome change.

Peace!

[Hope4TheBest07 in reply to Alun001]

Thank you for your kind words and envouragement. Greatly appreciated! Hats off mate!

[marsbarr]

Yes. Great. I took a break from. Facebook, seems to help. Too many people in my head lol.

Hope you continue to feel good.

[Millie09 in reply to marsbarr]

I too have taken a break from Facebook .I have not missed it at all and my anxiety has calmed down ! no more silly messages that people send .especially those chain messages .used to drive me up the wall.i have found it don't need social media .intact it made me worse .

[marsbarr in reply to Millie09]

Millie09. I didn't think i could do it, because I was constantly on. in 10 days, i have been on the book once and i find that I really don't miss it as much as I thought i would. I read an article talking about anxiety and facebook. did you read it? My hubby said " you have too many people in your head" which seemed to be right. lol. Funny thing my anxieties have gone down a lot. Ya think?

Have a great day Miliie09

[Millie09 in reply to marsbarr]

well I did .it had all become way too much for me .I was sick and tired of being added to groups I didn't want to be in .then if I hadn't been on one of the health groups for a while or my big brother one lol I would then be bombarded by messages .no I haven't seen that article Marsbarr.i bet that was an interesting read and I can bet a lot of anxiety is caused by Facebook .well your hubby was right there ! half of these fb friends are just a name .if I need to see or contact my real friends and family I don't need fb for that , so your anxiety has gone down too then ? 🤔🤔.... Very intriguing I would say .. take care and have a evening x

[Hope4TheBest07 in reply to Millie09]

See!

[Millie09 in reply to Hope4TheBest07]

yep ! it's oh so quiet ... lol xxx

[Shezow]

Well done! My thoughts exactly! I too took a break and am doing better, the more you feed your anxiety the worse it becomes, I force myself to do real stuff too!

All the best!

[Hope4TheBest07 in reply to Shezow]

I read so many sad posts that I said to myself "what the hell am I doing?! I'm torturing myself " smh yes we read stories and dont feel alone but in all reality we are still alone. Although someone is experiencing the same thing it is the blind leading the blind and we all are walking around looking for that magic cure. When the magic cure within ourselves..

[Lynl]

Yes! That is Awesome ! And CONGRATS on the job, eat drink and celebrate!🎉🧀🍝🍰🥗🍷🍷🍷

[Hope4TheBest07 in reply to Lynl]

Yes!!!

[ShellyS75]

The most important thing anyone can learn about anxiety is that no one is unique or special...we're all the same. So the best thing to do is stop looking for a miracle to fix anxiety...you are the cure. Only you can get yourself through it by challenging yourself to live life. Its unpleasant to start but it gets easier....then you realise its not anxiety thats the problem its your own response to your bodies natural sensations....its a tough lesson to learn but its true. I know this first hand i had anxiety and panic attacks for 10 years. Then i bought the book Dare by Barry McDonagh and thats when it all became clear. There is no miracle....be your own miracle and live life.

[Hope4TheBest07 in reply to ShellyS75]

My sentiments, well said

[_sincerelynina]

I totally wish I can go out & have fun my bestfriend birthday 24th I'm so scared to show up cause I feel like my anxiety not goin let me enjoy 😞

[Hope4TheBest07 in reply to _sincerelynina]

Go anyway!!!! Please trust me!! Go!!!! Please!!! Let me know how it went

[_sincerelynina in reply to Hope4TheBest07]

I'm so scared expectally I feel like everything is unreal 😞

[ShellyS75 in reply to _sincerelynina]

Go with or without your anxiety. When we are able to accept the anxious feelings without pushing them away they diminish...it may be quick...it may take 20 minutes but do it anyway.... tell yourself "so what if i feel anxious...if i need to i can leave....just 1 more minute...or 5 more minutes"....please go and prove to yourself you can do it! You can do it!!! 😊

[_sincerelynina in reply to ShellyS75]

I'm so scared 😞