Tired of this s**t...

[Stay_strong85]

I feel so stuck.

[valachia-t]

It will get better, I have been going through anxiety for 3 years now, and I am finally beginning to feel better.

[Stay_strong85 in reply to valachia-t]

I simply want to feel better. It seems like the more I try to fix my life the worse it gets.

[valachia-t in reply to Stay_strong85]

Yes I uderstand, but turn it around.I will feel better,the more I try to fix my life, the better I will be. Turn those negative sentences into positive sentences for now on.

[Cat33 in reply to Stay_strong85]

Stop trying the more you fight the worse it will be Relaxation is the key to getting better there is no miracle cure other than accepting not fighting and giving yourself time

It does and will get better

It is s... it is the most horrible thing but you can beat it

Try the DARE response book by Barry McDonagh he's been there and writes so much sense

You take lots of care of yourself

[Stay_strong85 in reply to valachia-t]

Thank you for your words.

[valachia-t in reply to Stay_strong85]

You are welcome, even though they are just words, they have power to them. If you say I'm never getting better, then you want. You are getting better.

[Stay_strong85]

I don't want to think anymore about anything. I don't want to feel. I feel like I did so much right in my life, and it still ended up like this. 😟

[valachia-t in reply to Stay_strong85]

Well it don't matter how good you have done, it rains on the just and unjust. Bad things do happen to good people, it's called life, but you don't give up. Say good things to yourself. Change the way you talk, and think. I tell myself daily, I am going to get better, I am going to drive, etc. Try it sometime, and mean it, and believe it. You will receive it. It's all up to you. Change the way you eat, listen to relaxing music, take organic vitamins. You will be ok, but it ain't gonna happen over night.

[Stay_strong85 in reply to valachia-t]

I know that's my problem, I do not positive self talk at all anymore. 😩😟😕I put myself down all the time and I always think the worst.

[sweetiepye]

Hello, Spell check not working? It's spelled shit. If that is offensive to you try something like dung, poop,feces , there are so many choices. When I started getting mad about having anxiety is when I started facing it . I was sick of giving up my life and doing things with my family. So I started counseling , taking some valium for a short time to get me started and every day I did something I was afraid to do , and I was afraid of everything. The important thing is I was taking action and it helped me feel more in control. As soon as one symptom cleared up a new one would appear , but eventually it stopped completely. It is hard, but you can do it. Any questions let me know, I'm happy to help.

[Stay_strong85 in reply to sweetiepye]

I am terrified of everything. I feel like a weak piece of crap! So I tell myself I am a weak piece of crap.

[sweetiepye in reply to Stay_strong85]

Your mind tends to believe what you tell it. Try retraining yours. Only positive thoughts. If you do this over and over you will start to believe itThis is a fake it till you make it type of behavior.You can do it.

[Clurking in reply to Stay_strong85]

Feel the fear and do it anyway. Its a book susan jeffries wrote it. It shows what negative thoughts do to us.x

[Stay_strong85 in reply to sweetiepye]

I do love the spell check comment! Made me smile. Thank you.

[Stay_strong85]

Thank you all.

[Stay_strong85]

I thought I was stronger than this. Every single thing causes me fear and anxiety.

[Icanbeathis2016 in reply to Stay_strong85]

I feel ya. Same here. And i feel like every other day or week sometime new happens or adds to my symptoms to start me all over again with being afraid and weak minded. Like when will this calm down. But something that sweetypye said in her post i was really thinking of doing is fake it til you make it kind of attitude because i kept saying something has to give im getting too fed up with myself and this horrible devil made anxiety. And im constantly thinking the worst or negative so i said to my boyfriend like well maybe i just need to pretend or fake myself out like im ok. I dont know maybe itll work maybe not. Sad thing is i have yet to try it. Im still always so heartbroken, upset, confused, angry, sad, afraid. But i do think we could give that strategy a try. But i definately feel your pain. Yesterday was not a good day for me. Set me right back againg ///neverSweet_1

[Stay_strong85 in reply to Icanbeathis2016]

I feel the same. I feel like I can't breathe...headaches...trouble sleeping again...I feel so frustrated.

[Stay_strong85 in reply to Icanbeathis2016]

Thank you, and yes I have been told that pretending to be ok works. I will give it a try. I also want to start trying being kind to myself, cause I have a bad habit of putting myself down when I feel overwhelmed or others are upset with me. Then my anxiety loves to tell me my life is over. That'swhere I been trting to use faith, but even then it's tough. I will not give up. Thank you, all of you, for giving me a hand up.

[sweetiepye in reply to Stay_strong85]

Not being afraid doesn't mean you're strong , Being anxious and afraid and doing things anyway, that makes you strong. When you can look at fear and anxiety and say go on do your worst then you will be well.

[Stay_strong85 in reply to sweetiepye]

I hear ya. Lol I hate saying it, But I really feel like a wimp.

[sweetiepye in reply to Stay_strong85]

But you are not a wimp, you are having a normal reaction .Something is triggering your fight or flight response and your body releases adrenalin.That causes all the crazy symptoms you have .Coun

.

[Stay_strong85 in reply to sweetiepye]

I am stuck living somewhere that I am always on edge...

[sweetiepye in reply to sweetiepye]

Sorry, I fell asleep typing the above. So to continue...counseling

helps, some meds from your Doctor, this forum, and doing 1 thing every day that is frightening. You will turn into such a tiger!

[Stay_strong85 in reply to sweetiepye]

Thank you. I like the doing something frightening a day thing cause I really feel like it'll help me get brave.

[Gabortomanek]

You know, every time i feel anxious, i just forgot my body and the person in me. I am only focusing the "I" in me. The true existence. Stop fighting. Just exist. Thats all i can say.

[susannaylor]

Hello stay strong x you can be stronger than you are saying x don't let your brain rule your life with this anxiety x you must tell your brain that it is not going to beat you x if I can do it so can you x I felt the way you are feeling for quite a while x just laying around not wanting to do anything not wanting to bother with life x feeling that everything is going wrong for you x you are the only one can do this as I have found out x I am 95% better than I have been : x just small meals x .lots of drinks to keep hydrated and a bit of exercise x maybe fresh air and a walk every day x honestly it really does help x my doctor offered me medication x I refused it x I said I would try and do it myself x and I am dealing with it x and so can you xiI did go to anxiety clinic as well which help me alot to chat with others who were suffering x we all helped each other x try breathing exercises whuch helps alto as well x so don't forget don't let that anxiety brain win you over x x good luck stay -strong

[Stay_strong85 in reply to susannaylor]

Thank you. Yes, I am not going to give up. I can beat this. I'm just stuck in a rut right now. Your words sunk in and I know you all are right. Thanks. 😶🙄

[Stay_strong85 in reply to susannaylor]

This is not my first rodeo though. I once was able to do exactly that...during my first span. That was from the age of 17-20. I did great beating it through exercise and more. I got well. Then at 24 it flared up again. I got back up on my feet a year or two later. But then fought alcoholism because I was using drinking to cope and it helped but then I had a new problem...a drinking problem. Got through that too, fully sober thank God. Then at 30 it hit harder than hard, and I been struggling the worst I ever have since...I am now 31. Now I find it super hard to still have the same motivation as before. I feel like I used all my strength up for the first couple times spans fighting this. I also lack a support system, so I am fighting the good fight alone, with God, and with you all. I got maybe two hugs this entire month. And that also hurts I have no one to hug me. Anyway sorry for rambling.

[susannaylor]

Well if you got through all that x you can definatly get through this one x and come back even stronger x don't give in to it x keep strong x lots of huggs to you x x

[Clurking]

Can u write lists in what u like to do, its also good to write things down it takes the power out of the thought. Writing no send letters are good. They say meditation is gd but u have to learn to shut those thoughts off, it does help it relaxes me. Hope u can find of way to unstick yourself. I just need energy and motivation and i wd be ok. Hugs.x

[Stay_strong85 in reply to Clurking]

Thank you, yes that is a huge problem of mine...the thoughts stay in my head. I will definitely use my journal again thanks to your words. I have to admit I gave up writing. Thanks again.

[Stay_strong85]

Well I starting doing something frightening every day and it is helping a lot. I am taking that brave step toward recovery!

[Skyrooms]

Stay Strong...Here is a big hug.Take a deep breath let it out and take my hug to the bottom of the floor and relax..let your feet go limb. Take a deep breath,squeeze a hug,let your breath all out and let your body sink into the floor. U can take my cyber hug and squeeze me tight..heres another hug.squeeze..ah, that feels good. Squeeze again, let the breath out and let your energy go to the bottom of the floor. Be weightless.

Thanks for reminding me of how to try to relax.I hope you get the idea. Its hard to do a cyber hug. But I hope you try.

I am sorry you feel so bad. I agree with others here. Take 1 fear at a time and beat it. You will get better,and so will I?

I dont want to leave my house,speak on the phone to friends. I have isolated myself. Coupled with the anxiety,I can feel your pain.

Lots of positive thinking,

Skyrooms

[Skyrooms]

Stay strong: Here is a hood exercise for anxiety.: Squeeze all of your muscles in your body all at once. Tense them up and hold for 30 seconds to a minute,then let it all go at one time.Tighten all your muscles,sqeeze,hold.then let it all go.

Heres another way to do it: Lay down and tighten each muscle group one at a time. First your shoulders then your arms,down to your stomach,thighs,legs and feet. After you are all tensed up,breathe out and just let go. DOES THAT FEEL BETTER?

You can also do one muscle group at a time. First your shoulders,hold for a minute,take a deep breath in, squeeze your shoulders tight for about 30 seconds to a min.,then let all the tension go and breathe out. Thats it. THEN GO TO ANOTHER muscle group,your arms,and then your hands until you get down to your feet.

I learned this in group therapy. I feel stupid writing this down. I HOPE YA ALL dont think I am crazy.

I call this an urgent,quick way to stop stressing so much. Bring the anxiety down. Its a stress reliever.

Has anyone done this type of exercise before? I have used this to help me get to sleep. I start out on the top of my body. sometimes I fall asleep before I get to my feet.

Hope you feel better soon and Good luck. Slow is good and it will take awhile but its good. Supply your toolbox with tricks to play on ur mind,everytime you feel stressed or want to go to sleep.

Does anyone else have their try to

Anxiety Relievers? Please put them down for us to see.....

Thanks for being so brave to post about being stuck.Willingness to share your mind with others means you already took the first step in healing.

Btw,I am not a counselor of any sorts. I just have years and years of anxiety in my life to try to help someone else.

Skyrooms

[Clurking in reply to Skyrooms]

Thank you, I use to do the squeezing muscles and releasing w try again.