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At my job it's a very very very bitchy environment, I find myself kind of forced to join in on this which is totally out of my character and I feel like I'm becoming a horrible person. A few things have happened recently and my boss has blamed me for them, being the anxious person I am I haven't had to courage to stick up for myself and tell the truth. There's 2 girls there who are awful with it and I kind of want to get myself away from being so close to them but last time I tried one of them pulled me to one side and basically had a got at me. I really don't know what to do, I really want to get away from this part of the job and just get on with myself yet when I do I get told that I'm being funny with people and not being very nice?! It leaves me feeling really anxious. I don't feel close to anybody there and I don't feel I can trust anyone. What do I do? My instinct is to leave and find another job but the thought of that sets me on edge. I just feel a bit lost with it 😔 My boss doesn't understand my anxiety no matter how many times I've tried to be open and explain it to her 

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Hi there 2sara1

Being 13 at high school and with two older sisters I've had my fair share of bitchy behaviour and anxiety issues. Don't act like someone your not , be kind be beautiful and be yourself. If possible try get your doctor of physiatrist to write a letter to your boss. You shouldn't have to deal with this. Do what your gut tells you to. 

Good luck 




PS ... If you want to message me feel free ...everyone needs some one who understands ❤

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Wow sounds like my job. I've been there over four months & I'm almost 100% sure that's where my anxiety comes from. It's always chaotic from the moment I come in until I leave. I'm constantly on edge. I had at least 7 panic attacks since December when I started. I've tried to explain its anxiety & they look at me like I'm nuts. I honestly feel it's time for me to move on because I can't feel like this all day everyday & even on my days off I feel like shit because I guess I know I have to go back. I can only tell you to stay to yourself if it keeps up try to move on. You deserve to be happy. 

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Yeah I'm exactly the same. I just have that constant feeling that I'm gonna get in to work and I'll have done something else wrong! One of the girls I work with has been ignoring me all day today for some unknown reason and it's making me really really anxious! I know we should just up and move if we're not happy somewhere but it's so hard isn't it!


Hi....here's some advice someone once gave me regarding work colleague's ....You don't go to work to make friends, but its more pleasant that you get along with people, don't let anyone walk all over you, your not at school now, them days are over, your, your own person, just be yourself.....😁


Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I was in a similar sort of situation last year where I felt the working environment wasn't right for me, but stayed regardless until enough was enough. I would say to trust your gut. If you know that this place is making you unhappy, then start looking for other places that don't have the same culture. After all, you deserve to be happy.


I'm just scared that it's just the profession I'm in 😔 I'm a hairdresser and the previous place I worked was similar. Not half as bad as where I am now but it's just the constant bitching I can't handle. I just don't know what other job I would do. My gut is telling me to leave and have maybe a month out just to relax and sort my head out but then the worries about money come along!


I had the same worries about being in the wrong profession. I was teaching in a school that just wasn't right for me. There was a culture of blaming and just generally making you feel bad for every decision you made. In the end I left to clear my head of the situation and took about a month to see what else I might like to do. I realized that I preferred working on my own terms and have started tutoring instead. Maybe you could take some time to figure out whether you'd like to go back into the profession, but in a different place. You could always take on some clients outside of the working environment and perhaps build up a client list? That could make some money in the meantime whilst figuring out whether it's still right for you.


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