Not sure what to tell my boss...

[mpohl]

I'm 20 years old and have been a server at my place of work for almost a year. I've had some depression and anxiety issues since I was about 17, but I was usually able to function at work just fine; I would be extremely nervous, but I could pretty much get through the night. But last night the place got really busy and I just kind of fell apart and ended up crying and hyperventilating in the back for a while. My manager let me go home, but I just had to call in sick for tonight as well. My boss called and wants to have a talk with me sometime next week and I'm not sure what to tell her. I know that I can't be doing this at work. I know that I'm letting them down. I didn't realize how bad it had gotten. I think I need to quit my job, or at least take some time off because I'm not being a good employee. I just don't know how to have this conversation with her without hugely discrediting myself because I know I'm going to be crying. I don't want this to hurt my chances of employment in future. How to I talk to my boss about my problems after she's already seen them?

[Wired]

Hi. I'm sorry to hear you are having a tough time at work at the moment.

It's very tricky isn't it, knowing whether you can trust your Boss to deal with the matter in a sensitive and caring manner or whether they are going to be difficult and could possibly make things harder in the future for you. However, they have seen how you have been and so the best course would be honesty from this point.

Would reducing your hours help you through this rough patch? Maybe you could suggest this?

I would also try to throw some positive spin on it, if you can. Showing that it's something you are aware of but at the same time are willing to address and try to work through shows some character and courage.

[kimc]

Hi, I feel for you...it's not easy, and we're all get nervous at new places, special at work, you are only there for a year.

But, your boss maybe understand, you are young and haven't going through a lots in life & work places. ..just apologize to her about you were getting a little nevous and you would going to solve it out. If you really can't in three months, you can be honest to her about your depression.

Remember, you were working fine for a year. Only one day, suddenly got busy made you worry, nervous and broken down. We're all do that sometimes, and don't beat yourself up.

Believed in yourself that you can get through this today, always telling yourself the next day would be better.

Your boss will understand that you just a little emotional, and maybe she gets you some helps if you need too.

Good lucks and by now, I hope you already feel better.

[Hidden]

First I would suggest you make an appointment with your GP, there may be a medication that He can give you for a short period of time.

Do you know what has brought this on?, something must be there in the background ?

Could this be the work you are undertaking is not the one for you, many people have problems dealing with the general public. Would it be a good idea to at least to look around while still employed for something more suitable to your needs

You are still very young and sometimes it can take a while to find your way into something you want to do.

With regard your meeting with your boss, the making of the GP appointment may work on the fact that you are trying to put your problem in some sort of perspective and trying to sort out the horrible feelings that you are suffering from.

When you have that meeting explain what you are doing with your GP and explain you want this condition treated ASAP and explain in a reserved way what had happened and your future hopes with regard the job you want to keep ??.

Again I would recommend a visit to your GP, explain the situation and what has caused your problem.

Knowing the cause makes it generally more treatable

BOB

[stde]

I agree, honesty is best policy....I also think there is nothing wrong with a visit to your doctor and also explain to him...he might find a rest from work is advisable for a short time, and normally all employers are duty bound to care for all employees wellbeing by law

[Devinlane]

Sorry you are going through this. I too have had the same episodes at work. I hate dealing with people and customer service because of my anxiety. I was stuck in retail for almost 7 years. I was never happy because I knew it would trigger my anxiety when we became busy which was almost everyday. My district manager kept me nervous with anxiety and I ran one of his best stores. He was always trying to micro manage and that shit drove me crazy. It is like I feel like I'm having closterphobia and I have to get up out of there right away. I know exactly what you are going through. I have never been on anti depressants but I have heard they work, or you can try Xanax or a low dose of some sort that will work immediately.