anxious all the time

[louisewiley]

hi all found this site and hopefully will help a bit,, anxious everyday usually about silly things been to docs and he sent me away telling me to do mindfulness which I've tried but when your an anxious person it's hard to do the relaxation ,, really don't want to feel like this hope I can get tips from others who feel like I do x

[Darryl Partner]

Welcome You are not alone. Whatever you are feeling, you no longer need feel that you are alone in your anxiety.

[louisewiley in reply to Darryl]

thank u so much it's hard for people to understand if they don't suffer anxiety themselves

[KarinR1960 in reply to louisewiley]

I'm with Darryl on this. I suffer as well now and then. Mine is getting better, but I know what triggers it, and have lots of support from my family. There is hope.

[louisewiley in reply to KarinR1960]

my family are amazing but think I should snap out of it when I get anxious about things they see as not worrisome at all its not their fault they all just so laid back don't know where I get it from lol! I stress about my dog constant is he eatting enough is he drinking enough and honestly I know he is the fittest dog around but I just think stupid thoughts,, always at the vet but they know me now and will talk me through things over the phone to help reassure me which is great,, my 2 son's are grown up now but looking back I was like it when they were young,, at the docs if they even sneezed I know myself it's not right just talkin now helps a lot x

[Indigojoe in reply to louisewiley]

and if it is any consultation, going to the doctor for myself is nerve wracking, and when I take any of my animals to the vet, I shake like a leaf. I have had years where I have stuck very close to home and have only been able to take care of my animals, the house and myself, because going to the simplest places knocked me for a loop.

It is only now, since I joined here and worked for years with a therapist and listen to you tube videos, [all night], that I have mastered my day to day life.

I switched vets, its easier to go now.

Haven't been to the doctor, did go to the dentist..........It just comes and goes, and while I am "good" I hit the ground running and do as much as I can.............

Happy Holidays Louise!

[Indigojoe in reply to louisewiley]

Louise, everyone here UNDERSTANDS

[louisewiley in reply to Darryl]

bad day today had a total panic attack because someone closed a door! this hasn't happened before am I getting claustrophobic as well?! just couldn't get a breath down until I had opened the door! got home and imagined yet again some thing is wrong with my dog and had to stop myself from yet again calling the vet as he is jumping about playing with his toys happy as Larry! WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME 😭

[vamdiok]

Hi Louise im passing the same thing right now,i know it has not been easy for you.

But good news for u today.pls pls try what i call "power mind".which is physically speaking to ur mind and controlling it.call these feelings and fears FAKE,bcos they are fake ! remove your mind from them.since the first and Second panic attack didnt kill u,it won't kill u again.

Move around,talk to people,anchor a discussion ,be the spokes man and be the talkative there.when u engaged your mind constantly u will get relief.remember it is u that built those fears up,so its time to dismantle them !

Get enough sleep.... if its too hard for u get talk to ur doctor for antidepressants drugs to help relax ur mind,pls disabuse ur mind that drug is the healer... noo !....its not.its just helping u to get enough sleep while u do the main job urself.pls dont get addicted to drugs.

Try hot and cold bath to know the one which calms u down.eat fruits and good food.

Keep talking to ur doctor.

Good luck bro !

U can always talk to.me lets fight it togather

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Try propanonol it doesn’t cure it but it enables me to work and socialise hugsx

[sliverofsilver]

Hi louisewiley,

You’re no longer alone. We all suffer from some sort of anxiety, and we know how you feel.

Mindfulness is helpful, but when you have actual anxiety, it can be hard, or even impossible. I find that I sit down, close my eyes, and immediately start worrying about everything that ever existed.

The doctor should probably have not just send you away and told you to do mindfulness, because that’s often not something that helps people. Perhaps you could go back to him and insist it’s not helping? Explain what you explained to us. Don’t be afraid to tell him what you need.

Perhaps the doctor can give you some medication to calm yourself down, or arrange some therapy for you to talk things through with a professional.

Meanwhile, have you tried distracting yourself and countering your anxiety with logic? You could distract yourself by reading a good book, watching a movie, doing a hobby, or just generally doing something you enjoy and that requires concentration. Something that lets your mind wander isn’t great, because that’s specifically what we don’t want.

Countering anxiety with logic doesn’t always work, but sometimes it will. You can try and write down your thought and thinking of everything you can to counter it, but it can also help to have someone else there to come up with the logic, since when we’re anxious, it can sometimes be hard.

The very best of wishes,

-sliverofsilver

[louisewiley in reply to sliverofsilver]

u hit the nail on the head when I try to relax my brain starts thinking of everything that can go wrong in life! I am goin back to docs next Friday and I'm telling them I can't do it it's not helping me and it's getting harder to get through a workday I walk my dog every morning b4 i go to work and yesterday I started sweating all over went boiling hot and couldn't catch my breath I'm getting worse as I get older and sometimes doctors just think u want medication but I really want help to feel better and be a more calm person I envy people who are calm and worry free 😢x

[sliverofsilver in reply to louisewiley]

And you hit the nail on the head when you said I hit the nail on the head. That’s exactly the phrase I’ve been trying to recall for ages when someone gets it perfectly right! Thanks for that

It’s good you’re going back to the doctor’s, that’s progress! Sometimes doctors do think you only want medication, but there’s a difference. You want help to become a calmer, happier person, and that may take form as medication, and that’s fine. If it happens to take form as a medication, then by all means, get medication!

Unfortunately, nobody is worry-free. Everybody worries about something in their life (unless they physically are not able to worry). But there are several lines. The first line is between normal worries and a worrisome personality. Then, it’s between worrisome personality and anxiety. If you’re anywhere in the last two sectors, then perhaps you need help. Heck, even if you just have normal worries, it can do some good to talk it through with someone

[Indigojoe in reply to louisewiley]

This sweating while walking the dog, is just a passage.

This happened to me, I have many dogs and I could not re direct myself, when I got all " freaky", like you describe.

It is only worse " right now" it is NOT GOING to be forever.

IF you can't walk the dog the usual route, just get out and walk around, BUT get OUT every day...

I am very thankful that ya'll have written in on this topic. My best progress was once I came here and saw that there are many people ( around the world ) who are "like me" and I had NO CLUE.

SO when I would challenge myself to do something out of my comfort zone, I would re play the comments from some of the folks here, knew I was not alone and it helped me succeed.

[WF2k]

I'm the same, I worry about everything and anything, even things that others wouldn't worry about, I'm anxious every single day, even more so atm and I'm finding that I'm gritting my teeth again, so yeah, you aren't on your own.

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When I went to the therapist for the first time, this is exactly the point I made “I’m constantly anxious and it affects my life”. I even told her how the train ticket man makes me hyperventilate every time he checks my ticket 😂.

All I can say is...it’s a difficult journey but being more at peace is achievable if you set your mind to it. Mindfulness and breathing exercises are very helpful but they don’t work (at least not for me) when I don’t know the cause of my anxiety. But once my therapist and I started to go through my experiences and thoughts, it started to make sense. And once it starts making sense, it is easier to do all the exercises. If you haven’t seen the therapist yet then maybe it’ll be a good idea? And I know how shitty you feel being anxious every day but it is not a death sentence and it can be controlled. It does take a lot of work and effort and you will relapse. But, it’s a slow journey and you will be fine. Xx