I guess I am quite a private person. But I find people's needs to know your business very hard to deal with.
I don't like telling lies but I find myself put in a position where I have to because I really do not want to say 'I suffer with anxiety/depression and didn't feel like coming out' these same people don't actually care they really just want to pry. They add stress to your life because you then become uncomfortable around them as you are left wondering what prying question they will ask next, I don't like being rude but it puts you in a situation, unfortunately because you are a little evasive it makes them worse, I feel even annoyed at the moment about it...don't people realise if you want to talk about it you will, and if you want to say we're you have been you will...the result of this for me is to avoid going to see them at all. That is difficult to do when you have seen them for at least once a week for a while, and when you don't go they are kind of annoyed.
Things are said that hurt you eg your not the same anymore' the last thing you want to hear when you are suffering with anxiety. And no I'm not the same anymore because you are making me shut down with your prying ways and no I don't come here as much because my life has somewhat changed...I feel like screaming at them LEAVE ME ALONE and get on with your own lives I gradually go less and less which is a shame as it was somewhere for me to go and I would continue going if I didn't feel they want to bombard me to go to further social events and not with a kind invitation but with an attitude of you have to come..
Sorry for the long moan but it is really hard for me to deal with and what was a nice social outlet for me has turned into an anxiety ridden get together...