Feeling overwhelmed

[cutelady29]

I'm finding it hard for me to take care my kids while having an anxiety is anyone else's experience in this to in the group

[Hidden]

Hello

Some years ago I had this same struggle

Have you family or friends that could help you , maybe have them a day a week or something to give you a break ?

Sometimes though it can be that we think we should be doing more than we are with our Kids and because we are not we see that as not coping

I always say kids need a roof over their heads , a warm meal on the table , a cuddle and a story at bed time and to know they are loved and even in my darkest hours I always managed that and they grew up fine

Not sure how old your kids are but if you need more support and are still under a Health Visitor have a chat with them how you are feeling , don't be afraid they will think you are a bad Mum or will take your kids away because that is the last thing they want but they do have support on offer if you let them know you need it and if your kids are older then speak with your Doctor about how you are struggling again they can get you support if you feel you want it but don't worry you are not the only person in the world that has ever felt this way and slowly things will get better but remember to ask for help if you need it there is no shame in needing help when you are not well

Take Care x

[cutelady29 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you I needed to hear that

[Aazz]

Yes I really struggled especially at the beginning of my anxiety, my husband had to take off work for 2 months. I go through ups and downs and during my downs is when I struggle so much. I went through a stage of feeding them cookies every morning and my now 3 year old was 2.5 at the time going through a stage of only wanting cookies or sweets and he would scream every morning for them I couldn't deal with his tantrums and just gave in and not only to the food but to a lot of things as I just could not cope with the tantrums feeling the way I was. I thought I would ruin him but now at 3 and a bit his tantrums have past and he is a good boy (most of the time). Also I know there are times you just want to lie in bed and do nothing and that just isn't always possible with kids. Taking them out and you have panic they are running all over the place demanding this and that it's tough when you are normal let alone when you have a mental disorder.

We get through it the best we can and I think what bounce said is so true as long as they are fed warm and know they are loved they will be fine.

I wish you well xxx

[Agora1]

Taking care of kids and having anxiety are two difficult things to handle.

When my children were young I was in the throws of horrific migraines.

One day, I met a neighbor a few doors down who was looking for temp job

in her home. Whenever I had to, I'd call her, and just watch my little one

from the front of my house go 2 doors down. Those 4 hours gave me time

to take my meds, get myself together and be a better mom when she came home.

We all need breaks from time to time and that's okay. Wishing you some alone time.