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I need help and advise

I have severe agoraphobia and i have to face a dental surgery alone. Im 59. I have infection in my gums and bad teeth. I live alone and i have no one to help me or anyone who cares. I have3 children but they cant be bothered with me. Last night the pain in my gums was so bad i thought i was going to die. Im so scared and shaky right now. I live on ssi and have medicaid insurance and no one takes it. Im terrified of everything and i have no hope. I have no one to call and no where to turn. Somebody please help me.

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Hope you get sorted that must be awful yo have I wish you the best what symptoms do you have can you explain please message me if you like here to talk


Besides the awful fear o have a gum abscess and the pain is unbearable. No help and i have no one


Hi,your not alone on here there are lots of people her to LISTEN and help, your not alone, if I lived near you I'd go with you no problem, but however hard it is you most go the dentist tomorrow get an emergency appointment this can not be left, and your not being fare to yourself suffering that pain, you get a taxi to your dentist once there they will look after you, then get a taxi home, then you must ring your GP surgery and tell them how alone you are and need help and support with things they will have a contact number for you to ring, there is people who will call out to you and help to take you to appointments etc, please don't suffer be strong ( I no it's hard ) and get the help you need xx


I live i. The usa and in a small county and we have no help or support. I have called and begged. I honestly dont know what to do. Am i going to die from this alone and no one cares???


Don't say that ofcourse you're not going to die it's a gum surgery. They will anesthesize u which is good so you won't feel a thing and once your home they'll put you on pain killers. Just keep your faith high and know that no matter what happens you're at peace with tourself. Embrace what's coming, after all you live alone and you know that feeling so it's nothing new. You just feel anxious coz it's a 'surgery'. I advise you to listen to Yoga music, take deep breaths and just be thankful for what you have and what you are. You're unique and you don't need anyone to make you happy, coz you make yourself happy.

If you can't call a friend, an acquaintence or a relative just take something special from home that makes you feel calm. We support you from the other side of the world hehe. Be strong!


Im so sorry you're going through this. I also suffer from agoraphobia so I know where your negative mind is at right now. " I can't go to the dentist, I have agoraphobia, I won't be able to make it, I feel like shit and il run away and go home and il never get the surgery". I do the same thing, accept my issues are taking my kids to school etc...

You need the surgery, and you CAN go. Put your head down, close your eyes if you need to, or just try and relax on the way there, just get yourself there. After 5 minutes you'll be so proud of yourself the symptoms will probably get better. Yes you'll be scared, yes it will be uncomfortable. BUT anxiety CANT kill you, and neither will leaving your house. Leaving a dental issue alone too long, could potentially lead to serious life threatening issues.

Just be open and honest with your dentist and plug through it. It's like jumping into a cold pool, you don't want to, it feels terrible, but eventually you get used to it and you don't have that need to get out.

Just please try. If you fail, try again. If you need to talk to someone on your way, call someone.

People care just no one understands what you're going through. Feel free to message me if you need to talk.


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