Help:(

[kelssxxxx]

posted again because its still going on... i love my boyfriend alot and he makes me so happy,we are practically bestfriends aswell..but because everything was going so well i started to think negative.I've got it in my head now that something has changed and that something isn't the same. I keep getting alot of negative thoughts that dont seem to go away i also keep thinking 'what if im not in love' etc it all started when my sister broke up with her long term boyfriend and there was alot of negativity in the house,alot of upset and there still is which has gone on for a couple of months,this has made me feel really down,i also took time off college because of stress and was isolated from people for a while,this was when my mind started to think about alot of bad stuff when i was staying in the house ever day,ever since its always been stuck in my head i want it to go away so i can be as happy as i was before it all came into my head! I am forever seeing people on social media breaking up and thinking 'thats gonna happen' etc followed with other what ifs, it did all start when i experienced my sister going through a relationship break up and i was getting very stressed with college work. Ive spoken to my mum and she said it will be anxiety and just me thinking too deep into things. as she sees how happy i am around him! sometimes it can affect how i act towards him though,which i hate:(Everything was so perfect before this stupid thought got planted in my head it seems to happen more when im alone-which is often tbh any replies will do!

[clareboyd]

Me to I feel the same I can't be myself was at the doctors today I'm now on catalaphram 20 mg to see how I get on wat u on xxx

[kelssxxxx in reply to clareboyd]

im not on anything are you having the same problems as me?xx

[clareboyd in reply to kelssxxxx]

Yea go to ur doctor tablet s do help they jus take a while I was off work for months an once the tablets kicked in I need ed out again xx

[kelssxxxx in reply to clareboyd]

everything was fine,was really happy and still am but its just when the negative thoughts creep into my head and dont seem to go away fully its horrible,no idea where its come from,needs to go away!! urgh xxx

[cat9]

I know exactly what you mean! Anxiety has been horrific with all its symptoms but what it has done to my relationship is the worst for me. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a few months, he is the first guy I have ever admitted to loving, my best friend, everything. But when I got anxiety a few months back it started with physical symptoms and turned into emotional ones and paranoia too, it nearly ruined us. He just didn't understand what I was having especially with the doctors saying I am ok, it's just anxiety. He was worried but he just didn't get it and it got too much for him. In addition I am so paranoid and anxious and scared emotionally, sometimes I cry for no reason or panic about us. It's a strain on us, it's terrible because we were perfect together. We've kind of sorted it out now and I am better but I curse anxiety for ever having come up and between us.

[kelssxxxx in reply to cat9]

its horrible isnt it, like when were together everything is fine, its when im away from him and alone i start to think a lot of weird negative things. Like i always compare it to the beginning of the relationship where it was all new and getting to know each other, its bound to be abit different now...urgh it so so hard to explain, but speaking to people about it who also have anxiety really helps me so thanks for the reply

[Kainan]

Hi. these automatic negative thoughts that get in your way are distortions in your thinking and they can be challenged. You don't have to believe all the crap your brain tells you. Substituting in more rational thoughts will go a long ways toward making you feel better and feel more in control. Every moment of every day an endless stream of thoughts enter our brains and we have to selectively pick which thoughts we should pay attention to. No relationship is ever perfect; believing so is only wishful thinking.