The never ending Cold.

[moley64]

I have largely been able to cope with my anxiety over the last few months.

However, I still have real challenges when it comes to coping with illness, especially colds/flu. I have over the last week had a gradual build up of a cold, which culminated in me cancelling all of my appointments yesterday. I thought that it had reached it's peak and that I would be on the mend today. I feel worse and have started to have real difficulty controlling my anxiety. My wife has over the last week also felt very poorly with this "Cold".

I was wondering what you do in this situation. I have today looked to occupy myself with undemanding activities to take my mind off of this cold. I am feeling tired and am wondering what you do to help you get through when you are feeling physically poorly.

I am hoping that you are feeling fighting fit

[Hidden]

Hi, I try to watch tv, I love quizzes on tv. I also make sure I keep taking paracetamol and lots of fluids. I do games on my iPad and read. I also have nice warm baths. I don't know if that helps you. I hope you get better soon.

Take care x

[moley64 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your reply to its really appreciated

[Hidden]

Hi

I am very much the same & asking my self the same question as you at the moment

I seem to be able to control my anxiety quite well until something physically is wrong with me

I am suffering with migraines at the moment & my anxiety levels have shot up !!!

For me I try & reason with myself , basically reminding myself of the facts which in my case are I have had migraines over 6 years , doctor says I am ok , neurologist says I am ok but have to admit it can be a struggle

Then of course the main thing is when we don't feel very well learning to relax & switch of which would help but not as easy said as done

I hope it soon passes & sorry my reply wont have been much help but wanted to just let you know you are not on your own with this & I had read your post

Love

whywhy

xxx

[moley64 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for you reply and I hope that your migraines subside.

I think that feeling physically very poorly caused me to have a melt down last night. I had tears, felt very panicky and wondered whether I had gone back to square one in terms of managing my anxiety. My wife has also felt very poorly with cold/flu and I felt her becoming irritable with me. I felt really useless in that my wife who is registered disabled was able to cope better than me.

I had a very poor night's sleep. I had the combination of a times shivering with cold and then feeling very warm. I could not get to sleep as my mind would not slow down. I took some herbal sleep remedy and some diazapram which did not seem to help much. At about 7am I managed to get a couple of hours sleep. This was probably the worsted night I have had in a long while.

I sometimes think that my wife only stays with me because I am able most of the time to do carer's duties. If I became very poorly again with panic and anxiety I am fearful that she would leave me.

Thanks once again for your reply and here is a further incite into my situation

[Hidden in reply to moley64]

Hi

I am just like you , I can keep my anxiety under control until I am ill like now with migraines & then all sense goes through the window !

I had flu before Christmas & so did hubby we were both equally as ill , I was intrigued how he dealt with it & would be asking are you not worried about this & that & the answer would be no why should I be & the reason he wasn't & dealt with it better was because he doesn't suffer with anxiety & I do just like your wife is dealing with it better because she doesn't suffer with anxiety but you do & I am sure she loves you just the way you are !

I think our anxiety gives us negative thoughts , I suppose if you were your wife you would be thinking why doesn't he get someone he doesn't have to care for , but it is because people love us just the way we are !

There are systems in place to care for people with disabilities so I am sure that isn't the reason she stays with you , the reason will be because she sees all the wonderful positive things about you & that is what she loves , it is only us that focus on what we think are our negatives your wife will be focusing on your positives & that is why she is with you !

I hope you both feel better soon

xxx

[moley64 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your lovely uplifting message. Take take lol

[Hidden]

Evening,

Lots of fluids honey and lemon hot, pain killers and rest is the best thing I find. The cold will run it's course. Be kind to yourself as you are poorly at the moment. Nice warm bath then bed.

Hope you are better soon.

Gardener x

[moley64 in reply to Hidden]

I will be kind to myself. My wife has been really poorly with this bug over the last week or so. I found it to be really upsetting last night when I had something of a panic anxiety meltdown and yet my disabled wife was able to cope with it better than me. It made me feel really useless and back to square one in terms of coping with my panic and anxiety. I think that rest is the best option.