Lingering Sadness

[shadow45]

Hi guys and Happy New year to you all..Its 4:45pm here on the West Coast of Canada.. And for some unexplainable reason I`m really unhappy... I really don`t have a good reason to be this sad... I just got my financial situation straightened a way.. I don't have to worry ..too much...about the next year or so...A friend is coming by later for supper and a movie .... And yet I cant shake this crappy feeling I wonder now if my happy chemicals are on low..I don't take anything right now I have in the past and have found the side effects harder to handle than the symptoms... don't ya just love that.. But shoot this is not good Just a dull ache in the belly kind feeling..Any way onward and upward....steve...

[Hidden]

Hi Shadow

Not sure what this answer will be like as it's 2 in the morning here but just wanted to let you no I had read your post

I always feel quite maudlin for some reason New Years Eve , I think I reminisce a bit but it will pass in a few days

Hope the same for you & that dull feeling passes soon

Happy New Year

Love

whywhy

xxx

[shadow45 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks.. ww.. off to bed now.. ..cheers and All the Best in 2014. I`m sure we will be in touch..

[thomson1898]

Hi Steve,

Like whywhy I tend to feel maudlin at New Year, not my favourite celebration lol

I do think it's because it makes you ponder about what's happened & where we are & usually I'm thinking that I'm no further forward than I was this time last year. A new year is supposed to hold such promise, but for some of us, sometimes, it can be hard to see it.

I know you have had big changes recently so I'm sure you're still adjusting.

I hope you enjoy your evening.

Sorry, not been much help, take care

x

[shadow45 in reply to thomson1898]

No your right its been a hard year or two... Realized that the simple obligation of participating in a year end celebration was just too much No energy for that kind of ramping up of glee that is expected .. lol Cheers T you helped.... yes you did

[shadow45]

All went well..Great conversation is a tonic no doubt.Cheers lilyjones.. All the Best in 2014..

[Maribee]

I've always disliked New Years Eve...you see these guys on TV seemingly have ing a good time...but I always feel that they must just be going thro the motions as I never feel like that about it.

My last two years have been awful health wise and often from a more personal point of view, and there is an expectation that perhaps the next year won't be any better or maybe even worse!

However...I'm trying to be positive and hope that I'm wrong...that my multiple health problems will improve , I will get younger and not older, get more attractive ,amusing and unforgettable, but for the right reasons.......

Come on guys..I'm gonna be 74 next birthday...give me a break....let's look on the positive side (who said 'there isn't one ?')..............best wishes to all of you...xxxxxx

[shadow45 in reply to Maribee]

Hi Maribee ..Thank you fro your post.. I Like your attitude I`ll try and be more positive today..Happy New Year.. steve

[chiv]

HELLO SHADOW 45. I AM LEARNING HOW TO USE THE PHONE I HAVE . SO IF YOU ACCIDENTLY GET A HALF MESSAGE THE REST WILL GET TO YOU SHORTLY. HAVE YOU TRIED LISTENING TO MEDITATION DVD'S SEVERAL TIMES ADAY IF YOU ARNT FEELLING SO VUNARABLE. NO GOOD TO TRY IT ONCE ITS GREAT FOR A BED TIME STORY AND RELAXATION, ALLSO POSATIVE THINKING DVD'S WITH NLP BUT CHECK WITH YOUR DOCTOR FIRST. BEING NOT WELL MAKES US FEELL VUNARABLE AND UNCERTAIN ABOUT THE FUTER BUT I READ A BOOK ANTHONY ROBINS I BELEAVE 80 PERCENT NEVER HAPPENS. I KNOW THAT WRITTING DOWN ALL THE GOOD THINGS IN LIFE , IS A GOOD IDEA THEN WHEN YOUR NOT FEELLING STRONG READ IT PUT ALL YOUR GOALS UP. AND KEEP A PHOTO ALBUM OF FRIENDS AND FAMILY. AND ON EACH PICTURE UNDERNEATH WRITE DOWN WHAT IS GOOD IN YOUR LIFE ABOUT THAT PERTOCULAR PHOTO. I AM IN BED TODAY SO OUT COMES THE ALBUM AND BOX OF TISSUES DAM ITS GOOD TO LET IT OUT SOME TIMES, THE ST MARINTANS ( SORRY DYSLEXIA RULES MY LIFE SUVERALY) AND QUESS WHAT MY 4 GROWN UP CHILDREN HAVE IT TO SO ONE SAYS HOW DO YOU SPELL SHALL WE SAY HIPPOPPOTAMUS. NONE OF. US KNOW WE USED TO LAUGH HYSTERICALY MY SPELLING IS GETTING BETTER BUT I DONT KNOW HOW TO USRE SPELL CHECK. A HOT WATER BOTTLE GIVES ME COMFORT AND KNOWING I AM NOT ON MY OWN HELPS ME SO THANK YOU FOR PUTTING YOUR MESSAGE UP KIND REGARDS REGINA

[shadow45 in reply to chiv]

Thank you fro you response Regina Yes I have started to use books on tape to keep the anxoius thought s at bay..I close my eyes and drift of for an hour or so Then when I stop I realize that I can control my mind it just takes the proper training.. Bless you and Happy New Year..

[Marguerite2013 in reply to shadow45]

I wonder if feeling a bit flat is that after Xmas and New Year's Eve, all the excitement has gone. Many pple say that New Year heralds in wonderful hopes for the future - but in my case I had a wonderful year in 2013 and did not really want it to end, and I feel very agitated tonight (sorry not wanting to high-jack your thread) but Shadow there are many people who are actually tired and need some sleep after all the dashing about... Take care and glad to hear that you felt a bit better after the visit from your friend. All best, Marguerite x

[shadow45 in reply to Marguerite2013]

Thank you for responding. I have realized that I am very tired.. Used some relaxation techniques today.. I`v been through 18 very stressful days.. And while I should have been resting I`v been occupied with finding ways to fix the stress. Which in my case and many others, takes time and a lot of help from various sources. Today has been not so good... I have an odd family... I mean not one phone call from my family on New Years day... Not the best way to feel loved and wanted ..Oh well nothing is going to change them now.. Thanks again Marguerite xo steve

[Marguerite2013 in reply to shadow45]

Morning Shadow! I took the advice I gave you and went off to bed and only just up now (1pm) and see the sun is shining and notice the buds on the stem of my clematis are starting to grow!!! \ Sweetie, I really DO understand how upsetting you will have felt not hearing from your family on NY's day... I also felt very low and agitated, as likewise here... I only have one brother and zippo from him... But today, with the sunshine streaming into my garden, I think I may have a nice long walk up to the lake near me... \ A therapist once told me: if you have "friends" who cause you to feel low-spirited and who don't lift you up - DROP THEM.... But if it is FAMILY - see them as infrequently as poss because you KNOW they will drag you down! For me now, MY FRIENDS ARE MY FAMILY... I realise of course that family bonds stem from childhood - but I am not severing any relationships - just giving less and being in touch less frequently, because the brother always upsets me - and if stress-prone in any case, best to find affection in others and even a little animal... Take care Steve, and stay in touch. HUGS, Marguerite x

[shadow45 in reply to Marguerite2013]

Hello... I got into bed at 7 o clock last night and snuggled with the cat and watched t v stayed in bed until 10 30 today.. I`v made a major decision to sell my house and move closer to my family and friends... I live on Vancouver Island and all my friends and family now live hundreds of miles a way.. So its time now to do want I really feel is the right thing. I had a long conversation with my daughter last night and she asked me simply "what do you really want to do".. So this was the decision I came too.. Traveling to the Island is a pain.. Its expensive and it takes several hours to gat here from the main land (Vancouver BC)... I really appreciate your keeping in touch and I will let you know how things are progressing.. Much love and peace to you..Marguerite..

[Marguerite2013 in reply to shadow45]

So glad to hear you have made a decision that suits you and your family whom you are obviously very close to. You did speak to your daughter - so that is good.. Also looking at things after a really good rest, is always the best way forward, when you feel sufficiently relaxed to do what is sensible. Your email also sounds that you are feeling a lot better. Nice.

Good luck Steve - and take care out there.. HUGS Marguerite x

[shadow45 in reply to Marguerite2013]

Bless you xoxox steve.