I don't want to give up.

[Rose555]

I'm crying as I write this. I feel utterly rubbish, worthless and like giving up.

The reason for feeling this way is spurred by a recent rejection from a guy I quite liked, but I think that the feelings were already there, and he's just confirmed what I already thought about myself.

I don't have any close family, I have some good friends but I'm just so desperate to share my life with a special someone, and feel so lonely inside.

The guy used me, I think it was a rebound fling but as I felt something for him, it hurts a lot. I sent him a message saying how unfair it was to treat me this way and he hasn't even responded. He caused me so much additional anxiety, fear of getting close etc, to then blow me off has just devastated me. I can usually pull myself round from these things but am really struggling to this time as I thought he felt the same way I did.

I just needed to vent in a safe space, I know in a few days or whatever I will start to feel better. Right now I just feel like being reckless. I already went out last night and drank far too much.

[Trip]

Hi rose I am very sorry to hear that I would not say you are worthless hun, I have no one to spend my days with.

I also have a fear of getting close to people as i have been treated like **** over the years.

Things like this will make us stronger.

Keep strong,

Trip

x

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Hi Rose

He wasnt worth you hun , his loss

You will meet someone who is worthy of you , when the time is right , my hubby of 20 years was suppose to be a blind date , i had given up on men , but was told I was just going & he was to make the numbers up , 20 years later & a son , married , so that has been a long blind date

When the time is right hun , someone will come along , meantime , love you , keep yourself happy , & you will have more to give when Mr Right comes along

Love

whywhy

xxx

[biddy1]

Hi Rosie, Sorry you are feeling rejection but sounds like you had a lucky escape he sounds like a total user would you really want to spend your life with him.? Be good to yourself and love yourself and you will attract the right kind of person into your life . Keep your heart up xxx

[Rose555]

Hi all. Thanks so much for your kind words. I was sleeping and a bad dream just woke me up. Now quite awake. I know you're all right, the guy is not worth my tears. It's so hard to stay positive after this though. I do certainly attract, and am attracted to men who aren't good for me. I will try and love myself more though. Xxx

[Bigtonyd]

Its a shame people are built this way with no respect for others feeing s and dont look back to the damage they cause to people. One of my biggest problems i have with moving on is the feelings that i have for my X. Untill they go i wont get in to another relationship, If i cant give my self fully to somebody then i will not get with someone else it would not be fair on the. You need to love and respect your self and you will attract the right people. you are who you are if people dont like that its there problem. theres no rush the right person will come along when you least expect it.

Tony

[warren218]

Good advice Tony.

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Hi rose x

The guy is not worthy of you. Don't fall apart or waste tears over him. Someone you deserve will come along when you are in a better place hun. I have read your other message about your family and mine are the same. Focus on being kind to yourself and keeping your friends close. Don't waste time on family or friends who make you feel bad. Sending you a big hug... Wrap it around you and stay cosy xxxx

[Pickle165]

put yourself and your health first. i have a family member that goes out of her way to make life harder for me. she has told people basically im off work cos i want to be and theres nothing wrong with me......she hasnt got a clue, really. there have been times when ive nearly lost it and had an argument or wrote a letter but when i stop and think about i have to pitty her for what a sad cow she really is. pitty them and shut them out where they belong!!!!!! x