Yes here I am laying in bed crippled by heart failure and anxiety.Last night I slept for two hours and today I feel really pee'd off.Where I am it's a lovely sunny day and it looks as though it's quite warm,my neighbour is mowing his lawn,
topless.,but I can't even get out.
Anyway this blog is not about me it is about people like my lovely wife...THE CARERS....Because I can't go out my wife won't go out.Because I can't sleep my wife won't sleep.Yet she does all the caring all the worrying and all the work.
We've been married since 1966....some of you may remember 1966 for other reasons......and never been apart except for a couple of hospitalisations.
I am hoping that there may be other carers who read these pages and can tell me if there is anyway my wife can have a break.
She won't go out unless she knows I am in safe hands.Does anyone know please if perhaps I could go somewhere for perhaps a day so that she could go and visit our daughter for a while?
I'm so so sorry you're feeling so rough, and i understand your concern about your wife. I've been a carer, and it can be stressful, even though it's a choice and you do it out of love, as i'm sure your wife does!
There is lots of help for carers, organisations which provide "replacement" carers for a few hours/day so your wife could go out, visit friends or whatever, and respite care if necessary. The best place to start is The Princess Royal Trust for Carers/Crossroads - lots of info/support/advice on there!
the garden is always open grog, im in there now doing a bit of weeding lol. the cats are with me, helping as usual. xxx my OH does everything to help me as well as go to work. i feel so useless at times, then i remember that she has the pleasure of my company so we are evens lol xxx she would kill me lol xxx
Great answer as usual Cookie. I feel absolutely useless as well but not really sure if my wife thinks my company is a pleasure
xxx
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Your wife loves you very much & that's why she is there
You must be a special man , don't forget it
Now lets see if with our help we can get some help so she can go out now & again
While she is out you can come to the party on here
xxx
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You are a lucky person whywhy.
I have just spent half an hour telling you all about my wife and myself in a reply of over 600 words.It is the first real that I have opened up to anybody.I pressed the enter button to send the reply and nothing happened.My broadband had gone down and now it has all been lost Oh well I got if off my chest even if no body was able to read it!!
Grog
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I wouldn't say I was lucky
I would have loved to have read what you had to say
Maybe you might feel like it again & if you do I will look forward to reading it
But like you said , I hope it helped just putting it down into words
xxx
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Thanks whywhy I'll make sure my doogle doesn't fall out this time
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O please do , it could be painful , we don't want anything falling out , we have enough problems
me too, palliative care sucks, wouldnt go back into any form of care work now as i dont think ive got the right P M A, not to mention being mentaly unstable xxx
That is nice to know.I have dementia and have to leave notes all over my flat to remind me what to do and when.. Trouble is I keep forgetting where I put my glasses so I cannot read the notes.Yesterday the phone rang and someone asked who they were speaking to but I had forgotten my own name.Do you think this is serious?
Most care homes are the same especially those for poor souls suffering from alzheimers
knowles
I do know what you mean.
I could care for a family member or close friend if I was able but to care for strangers on rubbish wages and to witness what happens to some of the clients must be a nightmare.
I am sure it would cause me major distress and anxiety
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