I am a 61 year old widower (My wife died in January this year), I have had support through Cruse Bereavement Care and this has brought me back from the misery of grief. I have met a lady at Cruse who lost her husband 4 years ago after being together for forty years. I like this lady very much she is supportive and caring. However the anxiety issues I have suffered from for over 45 years are causing me big issues within this friendship. This lady only wants friends and not a relationship, the other night she went out with another guy and won't tell me who he is. I understand that I have no hold over this lady and she can see who she wants when she wants to. We went out together today and I had a a lot of issues with eating and feeling nauseous. I came home and still feel the same. I can''t sleep, can't eat, feel tearful and dreadfully guilty. I have made tremendous progress since losing my wife but feel now I am slipping back into the black hole of depression and all that brings with it. I do not want to drive this lady away I value her friendship more than anything but I fear my lack of control of my anxiety will destroy it. I am awaiting help through CBT but fear I will mess things up before I can get the therapy. Does anyone else have anxiety issues around relationships and if so what control methods can be used to control the effects of the anxiety and help me accept the situation as it is. Any advice would be greatly appreciated as this is making me feel quite unwell. Sorry it's a long post.