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No pressure please xxx

Hi everyone,

Now I don't know about how anyone else feels but one of the things that make me aggitated, cross, with this anxiety illness ishaving the feeling that I am being forced to do things I don't want, need or feel strong enough to undertake.

Take answering blogs and posts for example. I always read them with care, attention and an open mind. I cannot always reply though due to a number of reasons. It's not because I don't care or can't be arsed. It may be because I'm having a bad day, or I don't feel I will be of any help.

What I don't appreciate, and I'm sure I'm not alone, is when I feel forced to reply by the person feeling insecure. We are all here because we suffer and I appreciate some may suffer more than others but please do not make others feel guilty for not getting back to you.

Let's be more under standing of how others might be feeling. We help and support when we are able, when we are in the right frame of mind and if we don't, it doesn't mean we don't care. It means we are dealing with our own demons.

Love Cookie xxx

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That's very well put Cookie & I 100% agree

I cant believe I am saying this , but I cant add anymore , you have said it all

Love

whywhy

xxx

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:-/ ROFL!!!!

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Innit lol :-D

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Hi Cookie

Couldn't agree more!!!! A lot of us with anxiety suffer agonies of "guilt" in any case - usually undeserved! To be made to feel guilty for not responding just compounds the problem :( Perhaps, as you say, we are not feeling good at the time; perhps we don't feel we have anything useful to add, or no experience of that particular problem.

But I have to admit that I, personally, resent being "told" to respond to this or that blog. I will respond when I think i can help - but that is my choice, no-one else's. Freedom of speech includes freedom to be silent!

Love

Rose

xxx

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I agree I read a lot of the post on here, but only reply on a few because as you say I might no be I the right frame of mind or because I don't feel I can offer any advise or support on the subject they have posted about. It doesn't mean I don't sympathise or care.

So well said cookie :)

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Hi Willy , where have you been

Missed you :-p

(((((((missed you hugs )))))))))))

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Not had much to lately. Brain is a bit mushy lol

((((((I'm still here hugs))))))

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Sorry to hear that , always here if you need me ;-)

(((((((((im here hugs ))))))))))

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I know you are

(((((((Thank you hugs))))))

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Hi will, I missed you more, I'm still in the bedroom changing it round. The cats thought they were in bed knobs and broomsticks when bed moved lol. Wish I'd taken a picture. I'm like the princess and the pea, I've got 3 mattresses on my bed lol, I didn't think to take them off before moving it derr xxx

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No you didn't miss him more , don't start :-p

xxx

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Now now I don't want you two to argue over me again lol.

Bet the cats are loving it. My dog is depressed at the mo he has a cone on and keeps walking into things lol. Never seen a dog look so unhappy.

Yeah removing the mattresses would of been a good move. I think you just like the challenge. :-p

I won't tell you I'm curled up on the sofa with my (not so) little niece watching a film. Might really over do it in a bit and have a cup of tea lol.

Are you past the point of no return with the changing rooms?

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Im not falling out Willy , just saying

Now be honest & say , who do you think really missed you the most

((((((honest hugs ))))))))

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Don't want to upset anyone lol :-/

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Really ?

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Well whoever I say I upset the other person so I'm gonna sit on the fence.

*cough* whywhy *cough* :-p

((((((((Might be in trouble hugs)))))))

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Good thinking Will :-/

Think we should shut up , this started a really sensible blog & look what we have done again :-o

(((((((protect you hugs ))))))))))

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Less of the we... People won't reply now ...:-) xxx

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Sorry :-(

xxxx

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Smile whywhy smile :)

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:-)

xxx

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Yay a happy whywhy

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Agree with this post...sometimes I am not able to reply because I can't concentrate or have no patience.....

Sue xxx

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What was that lol

I know, I'd be barred if replied when I'm in one of my ginger moods lol xxxx

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I feel the same read all post but can only reply when I feel what I can say will be helpful and positive. Thnks cookie for starting this thread.

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Thankyou Cookie, I completely agree with you and was thinking the same thing myself today.

Wishing you well :) xxx

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Totally agree! x

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