Just can’t do it with fakeness

[Lifesearching]

Today feels hard, I’m just getting so fed up with fake friends, coworkers, and family. I hate that I have to see them for whatever reason when I know they don’t like me. Family is all nice to me be giving me praise on social media, staking my every move, yet when they visit the same state they’re not available? Or friends who say such sweet things to me, but they need my bfs attention or keep staring at him like he’s theirs?? Or a friend who is obsessively texting me all of a sudden, but then giving me weird back handed compliments or needing to know every detail of my life? Sometimes to be honest I’m tempted to go the low route and start making up stories to see if they will copy me or get a reaction. I’ve had so many fake friend stalk my social media that I’m tempted or say weird stuff like I’m gonna dye my hair rainbow or eat a cactus to see if they’re desperate enough to copy me lol but I won’t actually do it. Or to just dish their behavior right back, but then if I did it to them oh suddenly I’m the bad guy! Lol! Like one friend on mine keeps bragging on and on about new furniture all this money, but the moment it’s my turn to share a small accomplishment, it’s “too much” lol. I’m losing faith in the existence of genuine people, like not even one day people in my life could not even truly be happy for me when they know for a fact what I’ve been through. I’ve literally almost killed myself in the past, lost everything left with nothing, but now that I’m finally stable again they’re angry??

[Italianmomma]

I've had the same experience with 3 different people. So called friends. I tell them how everything's going in my life and it's like they get funny with me. I think and I have been told this that when people aren't happy in their life and you are they don't like it. So now they don't talk to me anymore. I'm a person that if your happy I'm happy for you. But I guess not everyone feels the same. Everyone's going through different things in their life and I understand that. Life ain't perfect. But at least be happy for me. I would be happy for them.

[Lifesearching in reply to Italianmomma]

I’m the same! It’s been hard for me to find others who reciprocate those good vibes. The part that hurts the most is I’m literally trying to be friend with them, giving them every sign I’m a safe person on their side, and they just insist on hitting low🥺and it’s frustrating because I try to tell my bf to warn him about certain women around us who do this to me, but I’m not sure if guys even sense this? So when I bring it up he has no clue what I’m talking about🥺I pray to God he’s not one of those guys who is ok with this type of behavior bcuz then I’ll have to leave. And on that note I’ve been the same not matter what going bad in my life, I’ve never been the type to hate on others friend’s happiness. Like if my bf and have a bad day, I’m still happy if if I see on soc media a friend is engaged🥺🌸

[Italianmomma in reply to Lifesearching]

I know. I don't understand why they are like this. And I'm not gonna try too. People like that I have no patience with or I won't tolerate their behavior towards me.

[Lifesearching]

dang it’s either current friends pull away or “switch up” once something good happens to me, or old friends who ghosted me suddenly re appear as if we are best friends again🥺or if they have started to be nice it’s not long before they start getting passive aggressive again I’m just thinking about cutting off people close to me who’s friends are frenemies at this point bcuz bird of a feather but God is keeping me centered right now🙏🏽💞🌸

Probably one of the most ridiculous stories is how once I started getting better, this friend would start telling me about how much 50 dollar bills she gave to her 9 nieces and nephews, or how she started working 12 hr straight shifts and couldn’t answer the phone any more. So crazy how she thinks I didn’t see her antics of needing to be competitive it was so sad

I think during my childhood I always had friends who were way more beautiful, successful, and popular so as an adult it gave me thicker skin and I can handle having friends. I hated being the late bloomer but I don’t regret it at all. Jealous females as adults are super dangerous bcuz it’s not taking another l girls toys anymore or leaving someone out, but it becomes about being able to ruin another woman’s life if not kept in check!!

[Italianmomma]

It is pretty sad about her being competitive. I'm not trying to compete or think I'm better than anyone. I'm happy with my life. And my friends know what I have been through. Life was tough for me. But I turned it around and have tried to make the best of it. I just wish they were happy for me. It wasn't easy to get to where I'm at in my life. Women can get jealous. There's nothing to be jealous about. I'm still the same person. I haven't changed. I'm definitely much happier and content. I have peace of mind and that's priceless. And having a bf that is good to me is a blessing. 🙏

[Lifesearching in reply to Italianmomma]

I feel literally the exact same😭

[Italianmomma]

I'm glad you can relate.👏It's them that have the problem not us.

[Lifesearching]

I agree, nowadays I l love kind people no matter what they look like or their status

[Lifesearching]

Kindness makes someone automatically more attractive

[Lifesearching]

I’m so glad u found nice friends, I’m still searching🥺the people around me are half and half, I don’t know if they’re completely for me or not if you know what I mean, where I don’t have to question their loyalty. The hardest part is trying to give grace and be good to people who dislike me (according to the Bible) but it’s really hard. I’m on my last leg of being the bigger person, but praying God will remove those with bad intent soon no matter how much it hurts or who it is at this point. I would rather know the harsh truth and get rid of someone you know? Rather than keep a fake friend who’s only nice when they’re in my face or sees I have someone or something they want