Having one of them days again. Feeling so low, lonely, esteem is rock bottom.... I think social media is the cause. The manufactured lives people put up I can’t achieve... because its mostly fake.
Its not just social media though
I just feel so isolated and alone...😓
I only have this site to talk on sometimes.. but I do wish I had friends to talk to more than once.
Why is it so hard to make friends at 26 ... I wish they taught you this at school ! Hey kids you better make a massive group of friends before 18 because they’ll fizzle out so the bigger the group the better! Lol sigh 😔
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Hope everyone else is having a better start to the weekend than me?
Sorry to hear that Hope. Making friends is hard for me too. Particularly in person because I'm very shy in person. Just be yourself. Those who find you fascinating will gravitate to you. To hell with the fake people! We got your back here ☺
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Hi Hope, I agree with Brian hell with the fake friends. Having too many friends vs one real true friend. That's all one needs. But even if no friend like I have created myself to have, it's ok because here we are. I used to be shy then out of nowhere hello! What's the point? People disappoint especially when you need them the most. Live & learn. Social media, depressed me too much. Everyone with these so called "perfect lives". So no more fb or whatever there is now for me. No need for nonsense!
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Hello x
Yes I have one friend and we’ve been friends since the age of three . I suppose I should be grateful for one good friend and not want loads of bad ones .
I’ve deleted social media ... I agree.. it’s just poison sometimes...
Thanks
Have you try reaching out to old friends invite them somewhere go for a drink or bowling they might be feeling that way too, beside just cause people on social media look like their lives are perfect its justa beautiful lie
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Thanks for the advice x
Have grown apart from old friends.. i found them to not be great and only around when they needed something from me and never around when i needed or just wanted to spend time with them . So I cleared all negative toxic people from my life .. and ended up quite lonely I suppose x
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Same here Hope, had to delete toxic people in my life. Do I miss them? Nope. It was all about them, the moment I needed them. Too busy? Really then so am I. But you know I do things on my own, go to a museum, go to Starbucks, something I enjoy doing. Along the way I meet people. Guess that's my friend at that moment. What do you enjoy doing?
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Yeah that’s exactly how mine were ..
I have my husband he’s also my best friend and we do things together. I’m not lonely in that way.
Its just sometimes I miss having a group of friends I suppose .
I think in order to address a problem and get good advice I have to address my own wrongdoings too. I think when some people invite me to meet up.. my first instinct is to say no for some reason.. because I’m shy and socially awkward.. I just feel like I’ll embarrass myself or something.. or I don’t look great that day.. or I’m just having an off day you know? So it is my fault too I guess... people will give up on me if i keep saying no ...
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That's me too! Have a hubby here too but unfortunately he seems to have social anxiety. So that doesn't help me. I tend to isolate myself when one has done wrong to me. Like leave me alone. I have turned into a hermit! Thought I would never get to this point. But yes here I am.
Hope, first of all why are you apologizing and why do you think you are boring? Most people that suffer from depression have very low self esteem, myself included.
What about you makes you socially awkward? Your shyness?
Nobody is better than anybody in this world; it’s just that some have bigger egos.
Try to lighten up on yourself and give yourself a break.
Not everyone is bad or fake out there. Give it a try.
I thought every couple of weeks I post here when I feel low and people might just get sick of being going on about the same old thing ... but I know how caring and sweet people are on here .
Yeah I’m just shy i can feel my face going all red under the makeup when I’m talking to people and for some reason apparently i speak really low so people can’t always hear me lol but in my head I actually don’t think I’m speaking quietly...and I absolutely hateeeee ordering food or telling the waitress/waiters what i want ! I dread it! I dunno it all sounds a bit silly i guess
Hope, I am 68 years old and have been in therapy since the age of 20. I keep discovering things that I wasn’t aware of, linking to reasons for certain behaviors and reactions.
Yes there will be a root problem. But the shyness isn’t such a massive problem its just around people that I’m not too close to or are new or crowds.... but after the initial introductions or meetings I’m okay after 5-10 mins. It’s mostly just I haven’t had great friends in the past so I had to let them go and now hard to meet people and trust too maybe .
Hopefully when i go back into therapy it will help
Trust issues are major and difficult to work through. I’m still working on mine, but we have to keep trying. Isolation unfortunately, becomes all too comfortable even though it contributes to our depression.
Sometimes we burn our bridges because we expect too much from our friends. We might do anything and everything for them but when those actions or emotions don’t feel reciprocated, we walk away from them. I’m guilty of this myself.
I’m trying to be more selective now and realize that not everyone is going to be like me. I don’t expect too much and I find that sometimes I’m pleasantly surprised. Make sense?
Also I’m sorry I didn’t mean everyone is fake.. was referring to insta models and people like that who are heavily edited on social media .. it can effect someone who is struggling with low self esteem and confidence etc.
You can make friends at ANY age. As to social media, if it makes you feel bad, which I can certainly understand, take a break from it. Especially after the Facebook mess, not using social media may become cool.
I talked to hubby about my issues and he’s advised me to join some classes and hopefully make friends through them. We’re thinking yoga and maybe learn a language! So that’s cheered me up a little. I am very nervous to start something new like that ! But as long as i can focus on the class and all the focus isn’t on socialising i should be ok! Wish me luck ... I usually bail on new things .....
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