Thank you

[Lifesearching]

it’s so odd how I’m getting more responses from this support group on my struggles than my old therapist. I know it’s not good to gossip, but I often had unanswered messages, last minute cancellations, or just downright odd conversations with someone I was supposed to trust emotionally. Not knocking on therapy, but that was just my experience unfortunately and eventually I will find a new one but this support group works right now. She was a really smart woman but I sensed some weird intention in the mix with her inconsistent behaviors. Whenever I chatted with her there was this uneasy feeling I got underneath the conversation if I’m even saying that right. I know someone out there knows what I’m taking about. I feel more peaceful that she left my life, and it’s pretty amazing to see how strong everyone on here is in their own way. Even if I don’t always get a response it’s just nice to vent and not worry about someone close to me gossiping because everyone has an alias or can choose to remain anonymous. Not that I’m hiding anything but I just can’t trust many people right now even those close to me I’m just unsure

[fauxartist]

Therapists are just people... some are good and others are not. I went through a few to find a good fit. Finding a therapist that understands your issues and does care is rare unfortunately.

[Lifesearching in reply to fauxartist]

Wow, had no idea since that was my first therapist. Hope you did find a good fit 🙏🏽

[fauxartist in reply to Lifesearching]

Fortunately over the decades of therapy I've had a couple of good ones. The thing that many people should remember is that they are there for you, and if you don't feel your getting the help you need....ask for a referral to another therapist that would suit your needs better hopefully. It is tough at first, but it's their job to help you, even if it means referring you to someone else.

[Cpearl]

It's not odd at all. My therapist made me feel kinda intimidated and I wasn't comfortable with her at all. Every single visit all she wanted to talk about was my physical problems and my Dr's appointments. When I finally told her I didn't want to talk about that she acted frightened. Really, weird. I wanted to talk more about what was going on in my mind and how I was feeling emotionally. She had to have surgery on her leg and during that time I just decided I didn't want to go back to her. I haven't looked for a new therapist as of yet... just hoping I will find someone I can talk to.

[Lifesearching in reply to Cpearl]

Wow🥺I guess when I used to think of the word therapist I thought of somebody who wants to help out. My therapist even decided to skip sessions without telling me bec she said I was “ready”. No that is completely weird, you would think they’d wasn’t to focus on your emotional needs. I truly hope you find the right fit sooner than later🙏🏽

[Chopper99]

People on here are so helpful and understanding. Wish I'd found it sooner. Good luck in your search for a therapist. I was once told to try a few out to make sure you get the most suitable

[Lifesearching in reply to Chopper99]

Thank you🙏🏽

[Artyhype]

Trust your gut she wasn't a 'good fit" for you but there's good ones out there!! The first one I went to was a nut case and the one I have now is good. The one I had in-between was Awesome but retired now so it just takes a few tries. Glad you're finding help on here though